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writes:okay so, me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and almost 2 months.. and im a real romantic i like to have that special attention where it could be a note just saying "i love you" i like to be showed how much you are and lately.. I dont even know i feel like he doesnt give as much attention as i need.. He says i love you everyday a lot of times but that like the closest to sweet ive gotten in a long time.. For our year anniversary i got a long message saying he loves me and all this romantic stuff but he doesnt understand it not just every month once a month that he has to say it but more often to show he cares... I felt before i could tell him something and hed always try to fix the relationship now its all on me our sex life is great and everything but i still dont know what to do what to make of this i wanna fix things between us because i love him but i dont know how to deal with this please help what do i do:/
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reader, Odds +, writes (26 November 2010):
 If he's like me, he may very well have had some bad experiences in the past with complimenting girls too much. Compliments are like currency - too many of them will reduce their value. Had one girlfriend stop responding to compliments altogether, I gave them out so much, with predictable consequences. Had another who would be smilling all day when I gave her the rare, sincerely felt compliment (could have said more about her, but I chose not to, and it worked for me). Think about how special that one-year anniversary card was to you.
Obviously, too few can be a problem, but I'd rather err that way.
Does he show you he cares like Aunt Honesty said, through his actions? Is he there when you need to talk, does he hold and comfort you, does he make the effort to find time for you? Does he take you out, or make your nights in special? Does he make your enjoyment of sex a priority? If so, he loves you, more than words could hope to express.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 November 2010):
 Well you just need to explain to him that sometimes you dont feel that he shows you how much he cares about you or loves you. Explain to him that you would like him to show you more attention than he does because you like to feel secure and loved.
But sweetie actions speak louder than words, so he might not do all the we romantic things but he does assure you that he loves you, and its things like hugs and kisses and keeping you warm and safe that should really show you how much he cares not things like notes ect.
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