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anonymous
writes:I’m posting because I’m concerned about my girlfriend. Its regarding her family and how they treat her.From what she’s telling me, it seems that she doesn’t feel like one of the family because they either put her down, put her in bad moods or argue with her, when all she trys to do is have a conversation with them. I think this is mostly her parents, I’m sure there is bickering between her sisters and brother and that’s probably to be expected.Now I trust her but I don’t know what goes on behind closed doors and how much she is letting me know. The family all seem to be on their best behaviour when I am around (although this is understandable).I know her parents don’t approve of her job (she is a nursery worker) but she is hoping to go to university next year so this is just something to earn money until then. Her parents have tried to get her jobs like in insurance and office jobs but she isn’t interested and they get annoyed as a result.I joked about how me and my brother always have our little sister sneaking in to our room to join us when we watch TV and she said “that’s been me my whole life but worse” and how “she feels like a loner” I can’t help but get slightly upset by this. No one should be treated like this and especially by your own family.I guess what I’m asking is there anything I can do to help her without causing more trouble for her, I’m there for her to give support but I feel I should be doing something more to help her. It is her faily on the other hand and a potential minefield.Apologies for an essay lol.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 November 2010):
 Hi i think all you can do here is to keep supporting her and showing her that you are there for her. No good will come of you getting involved in family arguments because all families argue and its best to keep out of it. Am sure she knows you are on her side and if she needed you to do anything am sure she would ask.
All parents nag at there children from time to time, maybe she is just very sensitive and needs to stop taking everything to heart. Tell her just to be firm with her parents if they ask her to do some job tell her to be polite and say thanks but that she is happy in the job she has until she goes to university, they will soon give up.
Goodluck.
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