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writes:hey , well i've been seen this guy for a year now and i've noticed that he's not jealous at all , he sees me talking to guys all the time and am a very good looking girl and he doesnt seem to care at all if guys look at me or flirt with me and it makes me feel like he doesnt care about me because jealousy means love , or that the other person care about you ,so what can i do !!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): He has no reason to be jealous if you do everything in the open. You have no lies to tell or secrets. Never spoil it because broken trust never totaly mends no matter how hard you try.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): I have dealt with this also. In all of my previous relationships my boyfriends have always been jealous of my other guy friends or acquaintances. The man I am with now never gets jealous. For a while I was worried that he just didn't really care, so I addressed it with him. He told me that he trusted me and he was confident that if he was treating me the way I deserved I would not find it necessary to go outside of the relationship, and he was doing everything he could to fulfill my needs. Once I accepted that it made our relationship even stronger. So maybe you should talk about it because he might have a great reason for his behavior!
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reader, yodastud  +, writes (6 July 2009):
It could be mean that he trusts you completely - and that is good thing - no, it's a great thing! That's what I strive for in my relationships. He could just be confident he has a great girl whom he trusts - he might be thinking "let the other guys flirt - suckers! - I know my girl will do the right thing". He might even take some pride in that - bc really it is the ultimate test of a good relationship - total trust. If you're talking to other guys to "test" him - then you're being manipulative - and if he's mature enough to trust you, he deserves better. Jealousy does not equal love, no way, no how. Jealousy equals insecurity in my books.
But since it's bothering you - talk to him. You're feeling you're not getting his attention - but there's other ways to address that - talk to the guy! Don't play games.
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