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female
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36-40,
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writes:Hey, I'd love some advice, esp. from any guy readers, about male ejaculation. I've been with my bf 4 months, see him 3-4 times per week, and everything's going great :) But I'm kinda worried about what happens when we have sex. Our libidos seem pretty well-matched, but I've noticed the last few times we've had sex that he hasn't ejaculated during intercourse. He has lots of stamina and usually stays hard for ages, but the last few times, I think he's kinda gone soft after 15 minutes or so. He's told me before that the thing that turns him on the most is seeing me orgasm (which I almost have with him), but I kinda worry that, if he's not ejaculating, he's not orgasming, and not enjoying sex as much as he could? Like, I've never been with a guy who hasn't ejaculated before, so I'm having trouble getting my head around the idea of a man having intercourse but not ejaculating. We've had STD tests and I'm on the pill, so we don't use condoms. I've never had children, and have never been told I'm not tight vaginally. We try lots of different positions and have sex in different places, but I'm wondering what else I can do to get him to ejaculate when we have sex? I haven't directly talked to him about this as it might not be an issue for him and I don't want him to feel under pressure or something, and he always says "that was amazing" after intercourse (we usually stop when we have exhausted ourselves), but it is worrying me. Thanks :)
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (17 January 2011):
 Well I'm not sure and cannot speak for all guys, and will add that I'm a much older man now, but throughout my life and even today, I've very rarely had any problem finishing. My advice would be that your bf, whom we'll assume must be about your age, does have some kind of issue either with you or with sexual performance. Again, I cannot speak for all but it would seem a bit unusual if he fails to ejaculate on a consistent basis.
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