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writes:i just found out my boyfriend doesnt know who oskar shindler (may be missspelled sorry) is! is it normal that that kinda turns me off? my grand mother lost most of her borthers during world war II i tryed to teach him who this (n my mind) hero is but he shows not intrest what should i do i really love him but his lack of intrest in learning about the person that i belive is the greatest hero ever really buggs we what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2013): "his lack of intrest in learning about the person that i belive is the greatest hero ever really buggs we what should i do?"
Consider his point of view and realize he doesn't have the personal investment in the life of Oskar Schindler that you do through your grandmother's experiences.
Schindler remained an obscure figure to much of the world until the 1993 film "Schindler's List," and given your age it is very likely your boyfriend is not familiar with the movie nor would he be interested in delving into such subject matter.
Each of us has our own heroes, the best way for you to bring Oskar Schindler to life for others is by using him as an example in your life.
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (2 October 2013):
 If he told you his hero was wonder woman, would you want to learn everything about her to make him happy?
I don't think it's reasonable to expect someone to learn about him and his history just because they're your boyfriend and your hero is important to you.
My husband likes death thrash metal but I'm not going to listen to it because I don't enjoy it.
My hubby also loves Elvis (eclectic taste I know) but he doesn't expect me to learn all about him just because he thinks he's brilliant.
Oskar Schindler was an amazing man and deserves hero status for his compassion and dedication to saving many Jews during the 2nd World War but provided your boyfriend isn't mocking your choice and accepts that Oskar Schindler is a hero to you then I can't see why that isn't enough for you.
I hope this helps AB x
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