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writes:i am a girl of 23 years old. i never have sex before one day i was with my boy friend kissing each other he now then put his finger inside my vergina and told be look you are not a virgin why are u lieing to i started crying because i really know that i never have any sexually intercourse with any body in my life and we are about to get marry, but because that problem he wanted change his mine thinking that am a lier pls help me people.love you all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2009): There are certain parts in the world where virginity is valued. In Western countries, virginity became a thing of the past because of a liberal environment and loose sexual orientations.
Apparently the topic starter is from another country, non-Western and we must respect her country's culture, beliefs even if it differs from ours.
I would agree with nitram blue which is to educate her bf on things her bf should be elucidated. If it does not work, its time for her to move on.
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (14 January 2009):
he sounds like he has no clue about women! how can he tell from putting one finger inside of you! that is just stupid! you shouldn't be with someone who treats you like this. how dare he make out that you are lying. he does not deserve to be with you. dump him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): Correction on the link:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZESSod-Lxzo
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): why would u wanna marry this guy? he obviously isnt mature enough to be in a serious relationship and geez...how can he think ur lying about something like that. but i am a girl and i know ur sitting there still saying "but i love him"...yes i know u do. so talk to him. but u have definaltely nothing to prove. a girls virginity is a big thing so dont let him try and convince u to have sex. if he does, then u know this is not the guy u imagine him to be. hope this helped some.
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reader, NITRAM BLUE  +, writes (14 January 2009):
 Virginity is the state of never having had sexual intercourse. It is viewed positively or negatively depending on one's gender, one's age, one's culture and one's own personal beliefs and attitudes. In some cultures virginity has no special significance, and young people, of both sexes, engage in coitus very early and there is no special status associated with not doing so.In others, virginity is required of both sexes, and in many it is required of women only. Violation may result in severe punishment.For example, proving a bride's virginity became a public matter wherein the bed sheets used by the couple on their wedding night were hung out the window for the wedding guests to view. A bloodstained sheet was a sign that the groom penetrated the bride's intact hymen, causing it to bleed. Though not medically true, the theory was that the hymen would be unbroken if she were still a virgin.Since you are in Gambia, it is unknown to us if "Virginity" is positively or negatively viewed in your country. In my country, "virginity" is prized but losing it does not mean it is negatively looked upon. Perhaps, your boyfriend needs to research on "virginity" if he has a computer of his own.The issue of virginity is often subjected to a double standard based on gender. In our society, boys are typically encouraged to, and congratulated for, engaging in intercourse. Losing their virginity tends to elevate their status in their peer group and sometimes even in the eyes of their fathers or other older males.Girls, on the other hand, are cautioned not to lose their virginity and their reputations often suffer if they do engage in sexual intercourse. One wonders then to whom the boys are supposed to be losing their virginity.Isn't this a double standard? Of course it is. Educate your man and tell him to use the internet. If he is not convinced, replace your man. A man who insist on the virginity issue as the only thing for a perfect relationship is way down skin deep and superficial. Love must be the only reason to continue a relationship - not virginity or some petty issue.If you are a virgin, as you declared to be. Then, you are a virgin. It would be a joke, if he insist proving that you are not - on which case he just want to be lucky.Is virginity valuable? It is. A 22 year old American student Natalie Dylan, offered her virginity for bidding and currently the highest bidder offered $3,700,000. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZESSod-LxzoBelieve it or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): sweetie, do you really want to marry this man?
he doesn't sound like he is mature enough to be part of a relationship.. let alone to have children with in the future..
i feel that if this is an indication of his general behaviour and you may be setting yourself up for some rough years ahead..
my sympathies :( hope it all works out for you
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