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writes:So, I've been seeing a guy for the last few months and all of a sudden, he (metaphorically speaking) "disappears" on me. Things were going great until one day he just stops seeing me. He suddenly became (in my opinion) "too busy" to see me. I thought i should give him some space and things will settle and go back to normal but it still hasn't. Should i continue to wait for him or give up? Should i talk to him about it and ask what's going on? In that case, what should i say to him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2009): So you were seeing a guy for a few months and he just got too busy? Sounds like he may be freaking out and giving you the freeze out treatment. Are you two sexually intimate? Has he asked you to be his girlfriend or are you just acting as if you already are? Sometimes guys don't like this when girls do that....and they pull away hard.
I would stop calling him at least for a couple of weeks and give him some space, stop pursuing him. If he really wants a relationship with you, it will give him time to think, but don't let him think too long if you think he is just scared. Say something to him like, gee, I thought we really had a great connection and I really like you and am having so much fun getting to know you. I know that sometimes things seem a little intense between us, but I hope that you don't let those feelings scare you off because I think we have something special here, what do you think?
And then wait for his answer.....just back off and then give him a call if you don't hear from him.
Good Luck.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (12 January 2009):
 Call him and say hey, what's up? He might be one of those guys who have no balls to break up with a girl so thinking that if he "just" ignore her she will get the point.
He might have had a boat-load of stuff happen in his personal life that he hasn't share with you and that is what's taking up his time.
Call and talk to him. Why sit,wait and put YOUR life on hold?
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