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writes:Do people normally make a special time of an anniversary?My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. I deemed it to be a very special day and put in a lot of effort. He had completely forgotton. I was okay with him forgetting as he's had a lot going on, but was immensely dissapointed with what followed - nothing... just a typical normal evening. I didn't even get a decent kiss until he went to bed earlier than he normally does.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2006): It sound's like hes not making a good effort to show your his love. You know you dont have to and you should'nt put up with this now theres two roads you can take now you can either tell him how upset you where about him not remembering your aniversary (but chaces are he'll tune you out and think you are nagging you wont get though to blokes that way! or you Can be smart dont spend all your free time with him do somthing else anything that intrests you socilise, miss his calls sometimes and start treating him sweetly and casually as though hes your friend(I know this sounds far fetched but think the way you treated him when you first met you where probably not so intence) he will probaly get onto the fact that you have a lot going on too! and he will probebly miss all the specialness of your aniversary efforts and he'll start channeling the same effort towords you let him, and good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2006): Try talking with him about it. Ask him point blank if realizes how important anniversaries (and birthdays) are to you? Some guys are just not tuned in to stuff like that. Or there could be something more going on. How is the rest of your relationship? Maybe it's time to take stock of the overall picture. Is he starting to slack in other areas too? If not, treat it as an isolated boo-boo and simply let him know how you feel. Hopefully he'll remember next time if he cares about you at all.
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reader, amerthyst0202  +, writes (3 October 2006):
 Men just have a habit of forgetting things, that us women feel are special. but if he has a stressful job and had a lot on he could well have forgotten about your anniversary
It doesnt mean he loves you any less.
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reader, tazlilly +, writes (3 October 2006):
Well, you obviously care a lot for your boyfriend, so maybe you should just try and sit down when he has the time and talk about how disappointed you are. He probably doesn't even realise how he hurt you. I'm sure, once you explain, he will be sympathetic and understanding enough to at least apologise, and maybe even make up for it!
Also, if he has a lot going on, maybe the stress is getting to him too much? Maybe if you did something nice as a surprise to show that you aren't that angry with him, he'll appreciate it and return the favour come next year.
I hope it all works out.
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