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30-35,
anonymous
writes:my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 8 months and while of course it started off great we are going through some tough times.His family found out about me and dont exactly approve of me which is pretty big in my culture. and ever since then he has been acting very odd and not like him self.we actually even broke up but a week later got back together after i told him over time his family can learn to accept me i love him very much and dont want anybody else in this world so i dont wanna be told to leave him. My birthday was a few days ago which all he said to me was "happy bday" thru a text after i i reminded him that i was my birthday he said sorry for not wishing me one and that it was also his best friends and he forgot to tell him too.i dnt see him for another 2 days and if he didnt get me anything what do i do? its the principle..like do i mean that little to you? im so confused
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 November 2011):
 You should tell him. At least he could have bought you a card.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (14 November 2011):
 Dealing with family when it comes to culture, can be a little bit challenging- especially when you're not accepted. But I think what matters overall is how the two individuals in the relationship feel about each other, not the negative opinions of those that outside of the relationship.
In regards to your question about him not getting you anything for your birthday... I think it really depends on his financial situation. But I do agree it's all about the principle. Which is why you should definitely have a conversation with him to let him know how you feel. Let him know that you want to treated special, and viewed as special in his eyes- especially when it comes to your birthday... not just receiving a text that says "happy bday". You want something that shows a bit more love- and holds a bit more substance.
After your conversation with him, see if you notice any positive changes. And if you're still together next year, see if there are any improvements when your birthday comes back around.
I wish you the very best!
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