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writes:Hello everyone.A simple question. Valentines day is coming up, and I can't help but feel down about it. After being in my relationship for 3 1/2 years, am I shallow and wrong to want a little attention on Valentines day from my man?I'm a 22 year old girl, and he is 32. He loves me to bits but is completely hopeless when it comes to romance. Every year when Valentines day comes around, he asks me if I am getting anything for him. He tries to talk me out of whatever I have planned as he doesn't want to buy me a present or take me out somewhere special. He says it comes down to money, and that Valentines day is just too commercial and expensive. Last year I didn't even get a card. I spend all of my spare money on my man and know that I spoil him rotten.... a romantic getaway at a 5* lodge, a helicopter flying lesson, digital camera, picnics in fields... even simple things as hiding little love note and clues around the place that all lead him to me.I not not a girl that needs posessions to be happy, and I don't expect him to spend much money on me. But I just love for a red rose and a meaningful card on that day and feel so guilty in feeling like that. Is this wrong of me to hope for a little suprise from him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2007): Sorry love doesnt have anything to do with money, he should stop being a tight arse and take u out for dinner/roses/ a picnic surprise! christ im romantic! You love him, he should thank his lucky stars!! I'm 36 and mr romance so to get his attention that he should start treating you right start dressing up a bit more and use your femine charm to remind him of what he's missing! Then over coffee stress your concerns and see what he does??- trust be he will either be more romantic or your going out with a fish!!
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reader, Chrisss  +, writes (28 January 2007):
 Dear Questioner,
I am a guy but i personally agree with valentines day, i think it is a fun day where couples should show their affection for eachother.
It isn't wrong at all for you to expect something from him. Personally, i think it is quite selfish, you spending all your money on great gifts for him and he just accepts and gets on with his life.
Try to niggle on at him by talking about a concert you might want to go and see, or about some kind of jewellry you like. It might make him think about all the things you've done for him and he may respond with a present.
Another extreme (well it's not that extreme) method is to wait until he has gone out, and then snoop aroud and see if you can find anything. If you are certain and only certain if you are getting nothing from him for Valentines then I suggest you shouldn't get him a thing. The shock of not getting anything off you may make him realise that he actually wants something after all. Another idea on this method is to (just incase) buy something and keep it hidden, if he gets you nothing then take your present back to the shop.
I hope this helps,
Chrisss
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reader, Crazyhair5509174 +, writes (28 January 2007):
Sit down and talk about it with him. Theres nothing that we can tell you. If you say only something small will do then say that. You could write a poem and give hints away in that. There is endless possobilities. I hope this helps.
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