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writes: Ok..i've been talking to an old classmate of mine online for months now..We really like getting to know each other..He recently sent me a message saying he was in town to see his family and friends and wanted to meet up with me for coffee..So he asked for my phone #,and he called me. We were both happy to talk on the phone finally and i thought our conversation was going well. He said he's trying to squeeze in seeing his family, friends and meeting up with me all in one day because he had to go to work back in his hometown the next day..So i told him to try and get to see his family first while he gets the chance..He asked me if i had any plans and i told him i didn't and that i'd be chillin at home.. So he said he'd give me a call later on that day, but i never heard from him..This was yesterday and i still haven't heard anything back..He's a nice guy, very family oriented and i figured maybe he got caught up or something..I always take things like this personally..I felt maybe he wasn't diggin me on the phone or something..I am a little shy and was a little nervous but i think i kept a good flow going..He made me laugh..Now i keep thinking i did something wrong. I'm thinking back to our conversation and i really think it went well..Should i take this personally? He told me he was happy to talk to me, so i dunno....
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): Oh Sweetie, just calm down. There could be a million reasons why he didn't call, and not one of them was you. Just keep in mind that at this point he considers you a friend, and friends tend to flake out on each other from time to time. Just keep a smile on your face, and a smile in your heart, and all things will work out. I pray that all goes well. God Bless!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): The guy is a friend...that's it. We don't know why he didn't call. The reason you are taking this so darned personally , is because you are a female who attains self-value by attaching emotionally to a male...far far too quickly. You are romanticizing this poor guy and you two aren't even out of the starting gate yet. If feelings of hopes and fantasies of love are tugging at your heartstrings for this guy, here...then it's time to ask yourself, why are you allowing this to happen? He's a friend, he likely had family commitments and couldn't get back to you. Guys do this sort of thing all the time. They don't engage their feelings so soon as females. So you have to quit assuming he is romanticizing you. It really sounds like he's taking it slow and keeping it all in perspective. This is something... females should learn from males.
Sooo...slow down, hun. Let this progress nice and easy. Although he promised to call you, something happened and he couldn't. Keep your wits about you, use your head, not your heart and shrug it off. Get out there and have fun with other people., friends...have a fun life without him there. He'll like that even more about you, believe me. You may be amazed..he might give you a call explaining what happened and you'll quickly realize how silly all this angst was. Good luck and be smart, hun.
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