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writes:Ok i really need advice. I just met this guy over myspace IM and we started talking. i don't no him and i am a very shy person. we both don't know what to say to each other, b/c weve never met. His mom wanted him to meet me and it was my sisters friend. they want us to get together, but i don't no what to do i mean i never have had a b/f but this guy is cute and the lil bit of conversation we had he seems sweet. I need help on how to talk to him and what to say. Any Ideas?
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reader, Chumley2222 +, writes (25 June 2008):
 No matter what anyone says, you can't let yourself be forced into a situation in which you and whomever you have a fancy for feel uncomfortable. Why not tell your Mom to back off and let things happen as they do? He's cute, the conversation is going alright, so just keep chatting it up. Talk about potential mutual interests, lifestyles, favorite movies, things like that. If there's any chemistry then you guys will be chatting it up just fine. I think the outside interference from a doting mother is getting in the way of you just being yourself and natural with this guy. Take it slow, and let your inner self shine through..I mean that's one of the great things about the Internet..there's no reason to be shy.
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reader, coolchick99  +, writes (25 June 2008):
 well i would say if you're shy, just stop thinking about it it terms of dating. if you put that kind of pressure on it it might stress you out. just get to know him as friends first and see where it goes from there! :) also you should probably make sure your mom knows youre meeting this boy off myspace..and probably bring a friend so its more legit. if you're worried about it being awkward, maybe bring your sister along since this boy is your sisters friend!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): Oh Sweetie....Just be yourself. Talk about the things that interest you, and ask him about himself. Try going to a movie, that way when it is over you will have something to talk about. Remember to just be yourself, and have trust in your confidence. I pray all works out well. Keep us posted!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): Just ask him alot of questions. For instance, what do you want to know about him? Don't get too personal but ask him if he plays sports. And how he likes school. What are his plans when he graduates. What does he do in his free time. What are his favorite bands.
And also tell him a bit about yourself. Tell him about your friends and family. Anything interesting that you've done recently, even something as "banal" as how you just decorated your room differently. Whatever. Tell him about all the things you like to do, whether its that you play an instrument or play sports.
And just relax, there's no need to feel pressure.
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