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writes:Okay so here is a little backstory you will need to asnwer the question: I was enrolled in a class where my teacher (lets call him ben) commented on my breasts once or twice in class. He also would tease me about how sexual I was but never took it past that. Im very used to guys commenting on my breasts so I didn't take offense when the rest of the class was dumbstruck. His comment was "your breasts stick out so far you could eat lunch off of them." I could tell he was interested in me because we went out with one of my other classmates and when he drove me home we talked about sex the whole time. After the semester ended we decided to get coffee or something together. I dont remember who initiated it. During christmas break we started texting. I would tell him about my vivid dreams of him and I having passionate sex, and admitted to liking him for a while. Him and I talked almost every other day for 2 weeks. We even had a phone conversation for 2 hours on the phone. Time came for me to go back to school and I asked him if he wanted to see me. He said he was sick and that that night wasn't probably a good idea. He proceeded to talk to me for the remainder of the ride and then when I told him that I was in town and if he was feeling better he said yes and that he would love to meet up with me. He then invited me over to his house. We sat and talked for a few hours until I suggested giving him a back scratch/rub. We then continued talking for an hour or two until he kissed me and we got "hot and heavy" During the time I was giving him a back massage I asked him if he ever considered a relationship with a much younger girl (he is 20 years my senior) He mainly said that he was set in his ways and that he wasn't relationship material. Rather than saying no to me and saying he wasn't interested in a relationship he just questioned my reasons for liking him. At one point he even said he was in trouble because I was going to break his heart. We cuddled and talked until 6 in the morning when we both fell asleep. I stayed over at his house until 2:45 pm and he dropped me off saying he would call later, and kissed me goodbye. Since that night it hasn't really been the same. He doesn't really text me much anymore. He doesn't respond to my e-mails and facebook messages. I finally deleted his phone number after 4 days of hearing nothing after sending a 2 page e-mail, a facebook message and 2 text messages. He texted me later that night. When I tried to continue the conversation he didn't respond and still hasn't responded to any of my other messages. Granted classes did start this week and i'm sure he is very busy but I am really confused. Is he not interested in me? Did he just want sex? Is he interested but just busy? I am falling hard for him and its terrifying. Also I have asked him consistantly if I crossed the line or scared him to which he responded not to worry about scaring him that I should always say what I think. Also every chance I have given for him to tell me he isn't interested or doesn't want anything more than sex he hasn't said that he didn't want more. I am seriously super confused. He did say that he is really selfish. Is this just him being selfish? WHAT DO I DO?!?!
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (12 January 2012):
 If he's questioning your reasons for liking him and he's saying youll break his heart... this shows two possible things: One, he may lack self confidence and two, he has unresolved relationship issues. In other words, even if you two got together, there is a good chance he would bring prior issues into your relationship causing both parties an unfair chance at a clean start to a relationship together. I can almost assure you his lack of response is not because of you or what youve done, its his own issues and demons he has with himself. I wouldnt chase this guy.
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