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*rettywoman77
writes:Hello Cupids.What is it with men???I have had a friendship with a guy for a year or more. We have flirted and clearly there was an attraction between us. We get along great, laugh together, have chemistry...yadda yadda yadda...all the things you would need to have a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Problem is in the middle of all this flirting and getting along so well, he went and got himself a girlfriend!!! Of course I had no idea until I pryed it out of him. Like pulling teeth!! So here I was thinking I was special and that he really cared about me and our relationship was headed for the next step. And bam, he throws this curveball at me... :( And I told him I was hurt that he did that because I thought he had feelings for me. I was just separated from my husband at the time and she was single. But if he really liked me would he not have waited or said something to me?So, skip ahead about six months. I am starting to date and he knows this. He is a FB friend and sees all my statuses so he knows what is up. I have every right to date whoever I want, whenever I want. I am free and available. BUT he is pissed off at me because of it. He just went cold on me and does not talk to me anymore. And now he is mad that I am finally moving on? He moved on...I deserve to be happy, too, don't I?So why does he do this? He knew how I felt and went ahead and started seeing someone else. Now that I am moving on, it bothers him. He is still with her as far as I know. If he really did care, would he not stop seeing her and start to pursue me?Or was he never really into me and I am totally right for finding someone who will be???Any advice would be great! Thank u guys...:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2012): I am in a same situation. A guy who was a friend didn't bother telling me he had a girl back home in DR until it was too late- feelings involved and intimacy. I was so hurt by it and felt like shit and it was recent like septmember to now recent so it still is an open wound and when I told him that I was going out with a guy to the movies, he was upset and aggravated but he's still with his girl as far as I know. He just wants me as a second option just in case things go bad with his ex and to feel like a man by having pretty girls wanting him. You are doing the right thing by dating. You go girl. I am too and there is nothing wrong with that. Let that jerk go. Most likely, if he lied about his girl, he is lying about other things such as talking to other girls. In that case, you don't want him anyway. Move on, you won't rememver him in 6 months time. (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2012): So many questions but the answer is easy. He never really wanted you, just liked the attention and liked having you as an option and now he's pissed because he'll lose that option.
Oh and google 'dog in the manger'. Some people are just dicks, this guy is playing games, just remove him from facebook he doesn't even have a good friendship to offer you.
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