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writes:So yesterday while on facebook, I did some updates on my profile, including putting my boyfriend and I's anniversary date. We've been together since February 2012 and have always said we're "in a relationship" with one another. Well when I spoke to him on the phone he mentioned that the anniversary date showed up on his profile too...I asked if that was okay and he said of course. Then about an hour later he told me he decided to delete his profile...this caught me completely off guard and I couldn't help but think maybe his decision was triggered by me making our anniversary date public. He told me that was silly, he never uses facebook (which he doesn't) and it just made it one more way for people to look him up (he's very private). Should I take this personally? I think intially I second guessed it because I was worried maybe he was interested in someone else and decided to delete his profile so "she" wouldn't know he was unavailable. I have huge trust issues and he's been working through these with me. I would appreciate any feedback! Thanks!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 August 2012):
 I wouldn't take it personally unless your boyfriend is extremely passive agressive. Does he do things like this often, saying it's okay and then acting out on it? If not then why question him?
On facebook you can hide your status easily. No anniversary dates would show up then. Deleting your profile is not necessary. And if he's interested in someone else then why delete one of the ways "she" communicates with him?
You're paranoid. He's a private guy who rarely uses facebook and doesn't have a need to announce his relationship (or himself for that matter) to strangers online.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2012): Facebook causes more problems than it is worth...don't give it another thought IMO. What he did meant nothing, probably.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (13 August 2012):
 He seldom uses facebook and he is a private person so deleting his profile makes perfect sense. People do that all the time and I wouldn't read anything suspicious in his doing it.
It sounds as though you've already sat him down and had a conversation. He's well aware of your trust issues and according to you he's been helping you through them. I don't see the point in having yet another sit down with him about this.
Nothing in your post raises any alarms with me.
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reader, Tashar  +, writes (12 August 2012):
 Okay first off you have to be honest tell him the way you feel and why you feel this sit down and talk things through calmly and explain the situation to him let him see it from your point of view. Okay you say he is very private maybe he deleted his profile because he wants his personal life to stay private also if he doesn't use facebook that much then there is no point in having it. Okay you say you have trust issues well maybe the reason you think the way you do is because of them i understand why you feel the way you do but maybe you need to trust him a little more. You seriously need to have a good talk about your issues and problems with each other and you can't go wrong. Also you are with him you are in a relationship he is dating you so i assume you are seen together in public thus people will know you are together. Good luck for you and hope things go okay.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (12 August 2012):
 Once again, Facebook has caused more trouble than what it is worth. Please tell me why anything you do on an online social-networking site would be more important than what is going on in real life?
I agree with your boyfriend. I had a Facebook account for about a day and deleted it because I knew I would not use it. Plus, I thought it was pretty dumb that half the people who wanted to me as a "friend" were people who wouldn't even look at me if they saw me at the store. For a lot of people, Facebook and what it contains means absolutely nothing.
What should matter to you is how your boyfriend treats you and what your "status" is with him IN REAL LIFE.
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reader, katiekate +, writes (12 August 2012):
 It seems a little odd that he would suddenly delete his account like that. I would definitely be suspicious. However, if this is the ONLY thing to cause suspicion, I would probably just let it go and trust what he says his reasons were for deleting it. But if this is one of several "red flags", I think it's safe to assume that he's hiding something (or wants to hide you).
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