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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend just recently broke up with me, and I'm having a lot of trouble moving on.We'd only been dating a short time really, but things were so good. He was so sweet and caring, and we fell for eachother fast.But a few days ago, he decided to reenlist in the marines. He'll be gone for at least 4 years. He told me that he really truly loved me, he thought I was a wonderful girl, and if the timing had been different, we probably would have worked. But he said he knows long distance will only put strain on both of us, so he had to say goodbye. His career is simply more important to him right now.I know that he did the right thing by letting me go... but I'm just having so much trouble accepting it. I mean, it's not like I've never been dumped before. But at least in every other break up, there were relationship related reasons. And as time went on I was able to realize I wasn't happy in those particular relationships. But I've never had everything ripped away from me when they were going so well. I spent the first few days absolutely distraught. I couldn't eat, couldn't sleep. I felt like I'd rather die than feel so bad. I'm feeling a little better now. I'm not crying nearly as much, and I feel a little more "sensible." But I really don't know how I'll ever get over this man. I think I'll spend a long time wondering "what if?" I just don't know how to move on from here... because I know that realtionship wasn't ready to end.Has anyone else ever been in a position like this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008): well, i have never been in a position this bad although one of my closest friends have been in a similar one so here's my advice:
I think that your boyfriend loved you a lot but missed being in the marines as he probabyly had a lot of his memores there and i think that he broke up with you because he didn't want you worrying over him when he was there and he also didn' want to put strain on you so it was he way of "setting you free" why he wanted to fulfill his duty doing something that he loved doing.I think that you should still keep in touch and when he does come out of the marines, just be there for him and care for him so that he knows your still there for him, no matter what...
Good Luck!
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