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writes:So I met this guy. We chilled and everything. Everything went good until near the end where he had to leave. I was joking around by pretending to slap him. He said go ahead slap me I dare you to. I slapped him, but not to hard. Now he is kind of holding a grudge against me because of that. I tried apologizing saying I'm sorry. I don't want him to think of me wrong. It was just a harmless immature thing. What should I do? in your opinion
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reader, Daygo +, writes (25 November 2009):
Daygo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks for all your opinions, but there is just one more thing is that. When I asked him the first time if he forgives...he said "it's cool". So after that I tried talking to him again asking to chill and everything. At first he was not sure because he was kind of still stuck on the slap, but then he forgave I guess?. He said I was sexy and I turned him on...
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 November 2009):
To be honest, this is a red flag. Okay, it was somehting a bit silly. But what happens in the future when you can't agree on something. Is he gouing to act childish then? If he wants to be like this, let him and find a real man.
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (25 November 2009):
 Women do things like this all the time as a "Test". You began doing an activity that he wasn't comfortable with, He wanted to see how far you would go. He isn't happy with the result.
The thing to remember is that this was a first meeting / date. This is when people get to know each other. He decided, based on this first meeting that he does not want to continue the relationship. He may be using the slap as an example, but over all he was not satisfied with the experience.
Was the test silly? Yes, as most such "tests" are. The reason you feel unjustly treated is because you have been entrapped. But you should realize two things. First you did initiate the behavior that he tested you on. And, second, he was already unhappy and looking for an excuse.
My take is that he is not upset about the slap. He is also not that interested in you. Regardless of how well you think the first meeting went.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2009): Hes a cry baby, dont do anything about it. If he likes you then it wont matter but if he is petty then your better off without him
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2009): It reminds me, I had a friend who pointed his finger at me and I pretended to bite it, just for laughs. He dared me to actually bite it. I warned him and said I would bite hard, but he said to go ahead, and so I did! He yelped because I actually did bite him hard, not so hard that he'd bleed, but hard enough for it to hurt. He got surprised I had actually done that, and maybe a little grumpy for a while because he hadn't expected me to actually bite that hard I guess. But he got over it pretty fast and it certainly didnt ruin the evening.
Things is that: he asked you to. Even when he didn't really mean it, and didnt really want you to slap him, you are not a mind reader. But now you know he was probably not expecting you to actually do it. Too bad for him I say then, he better not ask for things he doesnt want, so now you learned and he learned.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (25 November 2009):
 Early warning. If he react like this now, how will he react in the future? This is who he is, someone who responds by holding a grudge to something trivial.
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