He couldn't wait for me to get back, then he wants to be alone?

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I was dating a guy for three long years! We were absolutely crazy about each other and have so many memories and were each other's firsts for so much! However, a year ago I had to move a few states away to go to a school my family and I could afford for the time being. It was heartbreaking to leave him, but we agreed to do the long distance thing. It was very difficult and we almost broke up a few times because of how stressful and heartbreaking the long distance was, but I was finally able to save my money to go to the school of my dreams that just happens to be very close to where he lives. He was so excited I was coming back and could not stop talking about how happy he was. We made so many plans and started talking about our future together. But as soon as I moved back he started acting a little strange. He never wanted to make the time to see me, he made our conversations short and awkward, he seemed very distant and he acted like making time for me was a burden to him. When I finally asked him what was wrong he said that he got so used to me being gone that he was so used to being alone. He said that I cared a lot more about him than he cared about me and just wanted to be alone because he was already used to it. I am crushed and so confused! All he wanted was to have me back and as soon as I arrived he decided out of the blue that he did not love me anymore. I know I shouldn't but I still love him and part of me wants to be with him still. Three years is a long time to just erase. I have not had any form of contact with him since he broke up with me, and I have been doing my best to go out with my friends, focus on school, and just have fun. I put up a good front but inside I feel like I'm dying. I love him and want him to realize that he's losing a good thing. What more should I do? Thanks for your help!

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