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*ngel summer
writes:me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and 3 months and we have got a 5 month old baby but we keep arguing really bad and he moved out but then i begged him to come home but now hes back i want him to leave but if he leaves i know i will want him back and i just dont know what to do anymore its making me depressed please help!
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reader, Renee okc  +, writes (8 August 2009):
You need to finally decide what you want to do, you want him to leave because he is probably doing stuff to get on your nerves, then you want him to come back because you are scared of being alone especially with a small child and he may go out and find someone and keep it moving. So the bottom line is you need to stop playing these games and decide do you or don't you want him to come back. If you are confused imagine how he must feel. A baby is no reason to stay together if the relationship is not working so get out or step up and get ya'll mind right together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2009): Why do you want him to leave? First sort out your feelings to find out what you truly want.
Also if I were you I'd look up borderline personality disorder. One of it's symptoms is push/pull, which is you push people away, then you want them to come back, and you keep doing it.
Or maybe these are just normal fickle feelings of yours. Whatever they are, sort them out, write them out.
And if by depressed, you mean REAL depression, maybe some antidepressants might help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2009): You dont want to live with someone who left you in the first place.Tell him to leave to sort his head out and when he figures out he wants to be there for you and the baby he can come back.Be strong dont let him walk over you!you deserve to be happy!
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reader, chloe88 +, writes (7 August 2009):
I think the first things you have to ask yourself is....do you want to put your baby through all this drama and the answer your probably thinking is no! You have to put your feelings and your babys needs and feelings first. Its just not you and him now. You have your baby to think about. I think you should sit down and talk to him about how your feeling and if he can't respect you for that then its not going to work. I hope this helps x
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