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writes:Lets cut to the chase, shall we? my boyfriend and I were dating for a good year and three months. I am sixteen and he is eighteen.I thought we were in love, he bought me a promise ring for our one year. i honestly thought i would spend the rest of my life with this guy.we have an apartment together, and everything!!little did I know he was cheating on me behind my back with one of my best friends!!I came home from school a few days ago, a little earlier then usual due to a major stomach ache, when i walked in i noticed my best friends shoes, and headed for the bedroom when i opened the door, i found them both naked in OUR bed. I grabbed my best friend by the hair and threw her and her things out the door, I then slapped my boyfriend across the face and left. I packed up my most needed things and went to my rents house for a good three days. I wouldn't let him say a word (he constantly called/texted saying he was sorry, i love you, etc - But, he was automatically kicked to the curb.Well yesterday, i went back to our apartment to pack up the rest of my things and give him this months rent money, when i was there i started to feel very angry and i bursted out in tears.i threw most of his things out the window and burnt all of his most prized possesions. (signed jerseys) etc.he is now threatening to charge me.. but I know i could of handled it differently, but do I even stand a chance in court?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): Do consult a lawyer. Get the worst shark out there -- like a divorce lawyer. If you can't afford one, call a women's shelter, who can probably refer you to one who will work pro-bono (if they have a sense of humour they'll probably want to take your case on). You might discuss ways to fight fire with fire (sorry) -- if there's something you could charge him with, or sue him over, it'd probably make him think twice about going after you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): I cleaned my house with my ex-boyfriend's clothes. Cashmere sweaters make very nice dust clothes. I also cut all of his shoes laces up the middle and left them in the shoes. I mopped the floor with some other item of his clothes, then i put all of them back on the hanger. My sister threw her ex's stuff out the window, including a very expensive piece of musical equipment.
So, you're not the first ex-girlfriend to lose her mind. you won't be the last.
That said, the court would probably make you pay him back for what you destroyed and burned. But, like Eyes said, the revenge, I'm sure, is well worth every penny. And, heck, if he doesn't have the receipts to prove in court that he had the items or what they were worth, you might get off without paying anything. :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): Follow up:
Thank you all for your support!!!!!!!!
It is greatly appreciated and put a smile on my face
that maybe I'm not this crazy ex girlfriend after all
xoxoxo
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 June 2009):
 The court may fine you but boy howdy, I think it was worth every cent!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): WOW, you go girl. be rid of this cheater and your so called best friend too.
you have done nothing wrong. hope you felt some sort of satisfaction as you saw his prized possession up in flames.
plse do not go back to him. EVER. and that friend, well if you even talk to her, well then you are the fool.
wish more cheated partners do what you did. man, you really had the balls!
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reader, Olivia(Y).  +, writes (18 June 2009):
 I really don't blame you for burning his things. If i was me i would of set fire to him.
In court you can say that in a moment of rage due to being in love with him and finding out he did the most awful thing to you by sleeping with your best friend you had a moment of insanity and burnt his things.
Hes just angry and probs won't even take you to cort over it.
Get rid of him and never take him back! You can do alot better than that... can't say that word...starts with a W :)
Good luck babe
xoxox
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): Good on you girl, he got what he deserved, but im sorry to hear his threatening to charge you, with luck he wont follow it through. Keeping my fingers crossed for you. Please let us know how you get on and GOOD LUCK Hun x
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reader, baby_tinney +, writes (18 June 2009):
 I think it will all come down to how hard he wants to push it.If he even wants to go infront of a room full of ppl and say yea I cheated but stil.......Yea he may do it but I dont see it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): He got what he deserved in my opinion.
He is probably bluffing about taking you to court.
If you have moved out why are you paying him rent?
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (18 June 2009):
 Threatening to charge you? I commend you for not setting HIM on fire...he should be thanking you he still has that empty husk that he calls a scrotum!The hell with him! He cheated....HE SHOULD BE THE ONE THAT LEAVES NOT YOU!Young lady, 21 years ago I was three weeks away from getting married and walked into THE SAME SITUATION AS YOU!I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FELT ALL THE WAY UP TO THE TIME YOU WROTE YOUR POST!You want to believe that this wasn't happening....How could someone do such a thing? The questions that you already know will never be answered are spinning around your head and making you woozy.Did he tell you it was a mistake? Just that one time? or the ultimate insult..."It didn't mean anything?" Yeah he loves you alright...what a jackass.That piece of crap ex of yours has a lot of nerve.You are SO YOUNG...do not let this sour you on all men, but I can certainly understand any future hesitation on your part...It took me almost the entire 20 years to trust somebody enough to let them into my life after it happened to me, only to have the same thing happen again.Just know that this is not your fault. You loved someone you thought you knew, but as so many of us who find out a harsh and Grimm Reality that cheaters are simply flawed people when it comes to being honest or loyal. There is no use wondering the reason why, because the answer is always the same...they don't love you and don't care about anyone but themselves.I hope the Jersey was a Terrell Owens Jersey...Id burn that out of spite, but not until I defecated on his doorstep and wiped my arse off on it and handed it back to him.All kidding aside, please feel free to PM me if you want some resources for coping with this. I have a wealth of it and always extend ther hand of compassion to those who have been maltreated by these turds...A big hug for you young lady....You can and you WILL GET THROUGH THIS!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): I understand why you did it, and I know being hurt makes you want to hurt back. At the same time though, buring signed jerseys that could be worth a lot of money is probably a valid thing to take someone to court for, and he may win. Although he cheated, there's not really a law against it that would justify burning his possesions. You could possibly claim he caused you emotional distress, but I don't know. I suggest you talk to your parents and possibly a lawyer if he does end up doing it.
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