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writes: Okay, I'm young, but I've always known what I like. I have a tickling fetish, and I prefer to be the 'ler and not the 'lee. So I kind of have two questions here.First, is it even remotely normal? I've always felt kind of freaked out by it. Like, it's not gross, but it's just... really weird.Second, my fiancee and I plan on having sex at some point, and I'm way, way too embarrassed about this to tell her about it. But I'm afraid that I might not be as... stimulated, per se, if it's not brought into said sex. What do I do? _
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (18 June 2009):
 Yeah me too.....So maybe you want to disregard what I said about giving your BF a Cleveland Steamer...being that your BF is really your GF
My advice remains the same however. Just don't impale your GF with the feather..lol
And to think I always thought I was the only one around here that didn't read the questions....I like to see that I am now not alone. Thanks Samii and Samantha...I have been vindicated..LMAO!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): Just realised my mistake. Swap "she" and "her" for "him" and "his". Sorry about that! xx
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (18 June 2009):
Young lady,When you and your fiance do the deed....grab a big ass feather na dgo to town.Make sure your man lies completely still and BLINDFOLDED(he will lose his sense of vision which will enhance his sense of touch) and you use that feather with all the sensuality and stimulation you can...Its nothing to be ashamed of ....I have run a huge feather over my lovers in the past, and they all seem to love it especially lightly flicking it over a woman's clitoris can be a sensual explosion if done right...light to the touch...light enough that they will explode if you keep doing it...but they will eventually beg for you to keep doing it.My last GF used to float one up and down my shaft....the shiver at the outset is just as good as the orgasm on a guyThe sensory delights that you can give someone with the feather are endless....I would incorporate it into your lovemaking as much as possible.If all else fails you could do a 180 and give him a Cleveland Steamer...lol...just kidding.But you don't be embarrassed a bit...Your man will thank you for it
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): Okay, well I used to go out with a guy who had a tickling fetish. So you are not alone in any way.
I do think you should bring this up with your fiancee, otherwise it might bother you that you are having to hide it from her. And I'm sure she will be understanding.
All I will say is, when I was with that guy, I didn't mind him tickling me from time to time, because I realised that he really liked it. But if he wouldn't stop, even when I said I'd had enough, it really irritated me.
So just see if you can find a compromise with her, and hopefully you will both be happy. You never know though, she might love it too!
Good luck. x
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reader, laura585 +, writes (18 June 2009):
I've never heard of a tickling fetish but I dont think it's so bad! (There are some really disturbing fettishes out there lol) I'm sure your fiancee wont see this as any huge deal, he might not really get it at first or who knows he might have a secret fetish too that he's been embarrased to share ... Maybe it can lead to a great sex life if you guys open up about your fantasies and such. There is no harm in trying, ecspecially since you two are planning on getting married. :) Oh and by the way fettishes are completely normal, dont fret there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): Original questioner here. Thank you for the reply; it's greatly appreciated, and the advice given even more so. She's very understanding, so I'm sure she won't wig out on me or anything. I just have to find a right time to bring something like that up, I suppose. Thank you~ n_n
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reader, PureKadence +, writes (18 June 2009):
Well, I think that's totally adorable.
I mean, I've always been a little turned on by tickling, or being tickled, by a girl I'm attracted to.
It's certainly not weird enough to be overly embarrassed about. I doubt they would think of you as weird for it, especially because they're your fiancée so they love you!
I'd imagine the worst possible situation, is that they don't get it, and aren't turned on by it. So you might not get to tickle them as much as you like, but I'm sure they wouldn't mind if you did every now and then.
Of course, there's a chance they'd also think it's adorable, and be into it, and be totally for it.
So I think you shouldn't worry about it to much, and should consider telling them. When you first tell them, make it sound more casual then serious, so it doesn't sound like a necessity, but just a small thing that turns you on.
See how they react, and go from there.
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