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writes: Just recently I found out that my boyfriend of 5 months cheated on me when we first started going out. We have gone out twice before for very short amounts of time. I think he cheated because he thought it wasn't going to last, he thought the breakup was sure to come soon. Now that we realized it was going to last this time he is very sorry. Should we stay friends and go back out if we're sure it's going to work. or end things all together?
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (14 April 2006):
 Dear Reader,
First off, do you really love this guy, even if he did think it wouldn't last. If you don't love him you've just answered your own problem.
Him saying he didn't think it would last was probably him not having faith because one of his other Relationships ended badly? Maybe he was just nervous? Anyway, if he's GENUINELY sorry and you do really like him. and I mean really really really like him, go for it.
But keep this in mind! If he can cheat once he can cheat again.
All the best and tell me hoew it goes,
Phoebe xxx
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reader, Lynnsie +, writes (9 April 2006):
Wow, I had the similar situation. We stayed together but it really demand too much emotions involoved and we were not happy for about 2 monthes since the scar was there-
If you guys really love each other, suggesting giving another shoot, but I think better way to ask for more time. A short time break is helpful for both of you guys to think about why the past happened, what was wrong with each side and how to fix it if you want to be together and work things out.
Then after a while, either being together or just being friends, you will not regret. Another lesson I learned if you do love someone, it is hard for u to hate him after a while even he cheated on u so badly.
So, short answer is: give this to time, give yourself a break, it is healthy.
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