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writes:i dont know what to do. my boyfriend and i broke up almost 2 months ago. we've been together since high school for about 51/2 yrs. and have a 3yr. old son. we love each other vary much but because we live on a vary sm. island, we have gotten ourselves caught up in alot of drama. everyone knows everyone and they all love to gossip. he broke up with me the day b4 mothers day bcuz i cheated on him with my best friend(or was for 6 years. not anymore tho) a couple wks. back. i told him when it happend, but he couldnt take it anymore. we saw the guy all the time. since we've been broken up i find out from him that he cheated on me with the guy i cheated withs girlfriend. he said he was trien to get him back. but we were still together when he did that. but broke up with me a wk. after he hooked up with her anyways. its this whole twisted thing and when i wanted him to reconsider breaking up with me, he couldnt b meaner to me. after about a wk. i said "fuck it" and hooked up with my friend again and decided that i was moving on. now he was the one begging 4 me to come back for about 2 wk. always calling me and sending flowers and sweet texts all the time. only after seeing my ex with a bunch of tourist girls and some islanders, i realized i made a huge mistake and i told him i wanted him back. i thought hed come running to me, but i was wrong. what if he did move on? what if i lost my true love forever just because of my stuborness and cat n mouse game? how do i get my man back???
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2009): Eh? You never said you were drunk! A lot of woman (who cheated) do this, they say something and then someone says something based on the information that 'they' provided originally, and then they become pissed off about it and then adding in an extra bit of information that wasn't there before, defiantly saying it in a way that we were supposed to know somehow.My guess is you didn't say that you were drunk because you knew that that wasn't a major factor to your cheating, because hey - you got together with the guy you cheated with and that says a lot!In the end what I'm trying to say is be rational with what you say and what you want people to know. Nobody could have guessed you were drunk - because you know you wanted to cheat either that's why you didn't mention it in the first place, and after hearing what you wanted you're upset that somebody had to bring reality home to you.
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reader, islandgirl +, writes (26 June 2009):
islandgirl is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanku so much for all your advice. all except that one really mean one. i mean, honestly, dont u think i feel bad about what i did? y else would i be here beggingfoyour advice? its the stupid things u do when drunk that realy opens your eyes. and i am currently attending AA by the way:-)
anyways, i took your advice and talked to him in a calm and sincere manner and i saw love and compassion in his eyes. and although he said our relationship cant work on this crazy island, he said he wants to move off and start fresh with me&our son. i couldnt b happier, but then we were interupted by his friends and thats where it ends for now.
he picks up our son tomorrow night from me, so i guess i'll see if we're together or not then? but i have hope&faith& true love on my side:-) thanku all once again and the deals not sealed yet so please feel free to help as much as u possibly can.
thankyou333
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reader, islandgirl +, writes (26 June 2009):
islandgirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanku so much for all your advice. all except that one really mean one. i mean, honestly, dont u think i feel bad about what i did? y else would i be here beggingfoyour advice? its the stupid things u do when drunk that realy opens your eyes. and i am currently attending AA by the way:-)
anyways, i took your advice and talked to him in a calm and sincere manner and i saw love and compassion in his eyes. and although he said our relationship cant work on this crazy island, he said he wants to move off and start fresh with me&our son. i couldnt b happier, but then we were interupted by his friends and thats where it ends for now.
he picks up our son tomorrow night from me, so i guess i'll see if we're together or not then? but i have hope&faith& true love on my side:-) thanku all once again and the deals not sealed yet so please feel free to help as much as u possibly can.
thankyou333
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): Well, it's your fault entirely for cheating in the first place that caused the rest of the dominos to fall. You cheated on him with your best male friend first, then he revenge cheated on you, and then afterwards you got back together with the guy you cheated with in tyhe first place - which really makes you look bad because that's like insulting your ex, showing him you wanted to be with your friend all along. I have doubts that things would work out well.
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (25 June 2009):
 No more games. Leave a message, don't beg be calm and be sincere then wait for him to call, be patient let 10 days pass then call once more using the same manner I just mentioned. Wait again, you can't force this and the more you sound desperate the more he might want to punish you.
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