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writes:my boyfriend of 5 years got someone else pregnant and we have a 2 year old should I stay or go? Reply to this Question
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (8 December 2009):
 No one can tell you whether or not to stay with your boyfriend; However, understand that staying together means accepting the child. Will you be able to nurture this child when he is in your home? Will you resent having to get out of the bed to take care of the baby late at night? Are you going to be able to deal with having this child's mother as a permanent part of your life?
You have every right to walk away from this relationship if you feel dealing with the child, and the ongoing contact with his mother, is more than you can do.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (8 December 2009):
I agree with Aunty BimBim. Be careful of making fast decisions. You have a lot to think about. First of all, do you want the relationship to continue or not? Do you have a job that will support you and your child? Do you have family? How are you going to respond when your child meets the half sibling, which is inevitable? You need to sit down by yourself and really think about what you want from your life now. And I think seeing a counsellor might help as well, just so you can get all your feelings out to understand them. Just be careful you don't' make snap decisions you might later regret.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (8 December 2009):
 Go where, with what and to do what?
Have you an action plan, can you support yourself, have you worked out where you are going to go, have you worked out how you are going to take your, and your child's, belongings?
YOu need a plan, and even if it takes a few months, as long as you are physically safe, get a plan together, work out what you are going to do, and then leave.
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