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writes: Long story short. My boyfriend is finishing up with his divorce (which by the way I was unaware of for the first 3 months- they've been separated for 2 years), we have been together for 7 months. After a drunken night on New Years (i was the drunk one) he decideds that he needs his space and he is not sure if he wants to be in a serious relationship right now. He decides this after 7 months when he is the one who chased me, he knew his "divorce" situation, and he told me he loved me and joked around about "us" living together. I have not spoken to him in over a week and I have no clue what is going on. What should I do?
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (12 January 2006):
Wow you must feel really confused at the moment hey? You want to find out whats going through his mind and it seems like he left you in the dark and never explained realy what was going through his mind. Its like he just said "I need a break, BYE!" and just left.
What do you need to do? You need to TALK to him. I know you are on a break but, that doesn't mean you can't talk to him. Yoou DESERVE to know whats going on in his head and what are his intentions. So ask him what is giving him doubts that you 2 shoudlnt perhaps be together? what does he need space for, what does he need to think about? and you both also need to talk about how long will this break go for, and are you both allowed to see other people? the biggest mistake I have seen when couples take breaks are when they don't set guidlines in what they can and cannot do on this break.
So talk to him, put a stop to all your confusion. Good luck!
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reader, shania  +, writes (12 January 2006):
 His divorce is nearly at a close and now he has taken a step back,and has looked at your relationship with him and he is probably wondering,Is this what i want? Trouble is,it hasnt helped you because you know what you want but he is not sure.All i can say is dont run after him because the more you do that the more likely he is going to back off.Now you havent heard anything from him in over a week,and i think the longer it goes on the less likely that he is going to come back.Give him a little more time and if you dont hear anything for a month then you will have your answer,hopefully he might realized what you mean to him and come running back.If you cant wait that long then just leave a simple text message or a short letter saying that you you will wait for him but not forever,but you do want to know where you stand,you are entitled to that much,good luck.
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