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writes:I need serious help. I started dating a friend of mine almost 4 months ago. We've been friends for 2 years and we're like peas in a pod. We fit together perfectly, yet still complement each other, most of our friends envied our friendship. I had liked him prior to him asking me out and he said that he didn't feel that way about me, about 9 months later, after dating a girl he really liked he asked me out. It was fine its my first realy relationship I never really cared to get into that kind of thing before hand. Everything was great, hes not an overly public person and thats fine, just i've been finding lately that hes not really bothered to go out of his way to hang out with me or see me. He works and goes to high school, while i'm in first year university. He has things on tuesdays and usually works weekends, the other nights hes either out with other friends or playing his video games. At first I wasn't bothered but now hes kind of becoming like those other friends. He is getting really jerk like towards our common friends and sort of drifting away from us. I had a fear during the first part of our relationship that he still liked his ex, though its somewhat a distance thought now, theres a new girl in the picture I seem to have to worry about. What makes this hard is that when I get mad at him for always being gone I never get to actually voice my opinion because when were alone hes back to being the same old guy I first fell for and i melt...I just don't know if hes only like that to get some or just cause he doesn't like being soft around a group of people. My friends have been telling me to end it, and I really can't i'm afraid of losing him, as a friend and a boyfriend...he's one of the very few I have that I can trust and make my life a better one. Is he not worth waiting on? Or is it just a male phase?
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reader, lucy84  +, writes (18 September 2008):
well its a lil odd that he never thought of u that way n after a break up w a girl he really liked asked u out honestly sounds like u r the rebound....just say that u really want a friendship w him more than anything n college is a lot right now...that way u keep that door open for a relationship or a fuck buddy n u don't have to worry bout the other stuff for now...u r at college date other guys n have fun but ummm yeah end it w him
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