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writes:It is kinda long, but I need help. I am going insane!!I was w a guy for 4 yrs, i broke up with him about 5 times while feeling like there was someone better out there and that I wasn't happy.How he treated me: Gave me everything my heart desired, tried to tell me how to run my life, wouldn't delete stupid girls he didn't even know off Facebook, now he is talking to that girl, at college sat and passed notes with the girl who asked him to go back to her place, was very sweet, took me out and then complained about spending money, hated my family openly to me...there is more, but I would rather not bore you...Really bad part: he insisted I be put on his credit card as a main user...well i used it only when he was with me, now he wants all of the money back i "borrowed". I want to give it to him, but my family feels i shouldn't. I'm torn. Plus, I lost my job because I worked for his family friend. He then went to my place of business and stole my 32GB ipod touch. i paid some of the money for it, but he paid the rest as my anniversary present.We have been seperated for 5 months almost... he is okay, or so he seems, though I don't believe it.I think it is for the best we are apart, tho I find him in EVERY dream I have, I wake up crying, I can't control when I cry, If im alone for too long I bust out into tears, I hope i see him in passing, I look for any oppertunity to talk about him or bring him up, everything reminds me of him, i want to talk to him so badly, but I cant.Why won't he go away out of my mind when I know he is so terrible!I think I may actually love him still!!!
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reader, dirtball +, writes (12 August 2010):
 I hate it when people break up and one of them goes back to take back gifts. That's just low. If I give someone something, it's theirs. Plain and simple. I don't care if it cost me $2 or $2000. I chose to give it to you knowing full well that many relationships end. He sounds like a tool to me.
The same goes for the credit card stuff in my book. If you bought something that was solely for you, then you may consider paying him for it to shut him up.
From the sound of things, you're dwelling on the relationship. That's not healthy. I think you should do your best to move on. If he was truely a good guy, he wouldn't be hounding you for money now, and taking gifts back.
One guy's opinion.
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reader, affectionate  +, writes (12 August 2010):
He sound so horrible...but you can't leave him because you are so attachs to him. He is like a best friend who you think mean much more to you than he actually is and when you see him with someone else, it make you jeaulous, but you're not actually in love with him, or at least, he is definitely not in love with you.
In most relationship,if it doesn't end happily ever after, no one would go around to actually hurt the person they once love. I mean, I could understand if your ex-boyf never want to see you again but going aroung to do thing that trouble you is not nice.
Please consider my advice and leave this guy for good. There are more than enough people out there to suit your liking. Now get out there and meet new people. Look for a new career, club, hobbies, whatever suit your liking...
You never know, you might actually found "the one".
By the way, I thinks you ex boyf is really selfish.
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