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writes:When my boyfriend and I had sex for the first few times, the first being when I lost my virginity, he was able to last for a good while. Now, he's only able to last for 10 minutes or so, at the most. Average time being 5 minutes or less. He says because I'm really tight...true...but why is my vagina murdering him all the time? Is it me? Or is it him? This is highly aggravating, and both he and I would like any advice and/or answers. Thankyou!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): Geez, if he is the same age as you, what the HELL do you expect?
5-10 minutes? That ain't enough?
Lets put it in perspecitive, another thread is about how long it takes a guy to come on average and the general agreement is for a young guy anywhere from 0 - 120 seconds. Some guys don't even make it inside when they are inexperienced and you are complaing about a full 5 minutes?
It sounds like you two do not engage in enough forplay, especially forplay where you are stimulated. This is needed by a lot of women as actuall intercourse often isn't enough. The problem is simply that your clit in many positions just isn't getting the stimulation required.
I would look at what you do in bed first, if he lasts 5-10 minutes inside of you that should be more then enough provided you are aroused enough when it starts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2008): well i think your sweet, i mean very sweet. that why he come between 5 to 10 min, but then he can still last longer if one he's using a condom or two after the first show he rest then come in again. let him at list try to get you satisfied instead of himself.cheers
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reader, IntoxicatingLastBreath  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 Don't blame yourself for things, or him for that matter really.
He may just be exsperiencing too much please to last as long as you want him to.
How about getting him to stop just before he cums? and do a little light foreplay instead..kissing him and teasing him..then get him to start again..if you do this a few times he'll last quite a bit longer and you may like the results.
Also, how about leaving sex for a while..like instead of leaving it for half a week before you have sex again..make it a week..but make sure he knows your just trying stuff out, not abandoning him. This way you may enjoy sex more and he may last longer than he is doing at the moment.
Feel free to contact me
And i hope things work out for you both
~Krissy [x]
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2008): Being as it seems u guys arent very experienced u shouldnt blame although the problem has to do with balance... i know when i first started out that i was like wow this feels great and i was doing things for myself and kinda thinkin it must feel great for her too being as she makes noise and what not...
but being as i love my girl so much i wanna make her feel as great as possible so i figure out ways to please her i found all her spots i listen to her breath pull her hair rub her everything she likes ...
im not trying to tell you how to have sex but.... if he focuses more on pleasing you his excitement will be lowered a little and he can prolong the experience
once my baby has gone a few times and cant take anymore i go in for what i like and finish with a bang tell your bf to read this i hope it helps
btw its not how long u have sex its how good it is so im guessing your not satisfied with what hes doing everyone loves a quickie if its done right trust me
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reader, Yos  +, writes (15 January 2008):
 10 minutes is average for intercourse. 15 minutes is about the upper limit for many. So you'd better get used to it! A few men can last for ages, which sounds great but actually can be a problem too (and painful).
If you want to make the sex last longer you mainly do this by leaving the intercourse 'til last, and 'til late. Focus on foreplay, petting, oral sex, massage, whatever you can think of and feel like doing. Getting turned on and having fun with sex means so much more than just intercourse.
You can also have intercourse for a few minutes and then switch to something else (before he orgasms).
You can also try de-sensitizing: wearing two condoms or using a cream can do this. I've never tried this, so have no idea if it works, but i've heard it can.
Doing this you can make the sex last as long as you both have the energy (which at your age is probably all weekend!)
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (15 January 2008):
I think da problem is with him more than with you.He seems to have certain anxieties as he's sleeping with you.Hope he's got a clear mind and not hiding something from you.However,having had similar experiences before,i must say with time it'll be a problem of the past just keep trying but i must also advise you to think and discuss the consequences of sex.Are you ready for them?
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008): he could possibly be too big..if this happens your vagina can really just be too tight for him..true the more you do it the better he'll adjust and the longer he'll last but honestly my opinion: sex really shouldn't be your priority at your age(i know i sound old-fashioned)but if you are willing to deal with the consequences and can handle if something we're to happen go ahead maybe you guys should talk about if something were to happen just some advice i dont want you to be heartbroken...im just worried because your discussing it as if you already have a sex life..thats a big step and once you do it you can't go back to kissing and hugging and thats it lol
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (15 January 2008):
 You're both still new to sex it seems, you've only had sex a few times from what you say. Was he virgin? it seems so as guys don't last for long as they are not expierienced much. The more you have sex, eventually he will last longer
message me if you have more questions =]
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