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36-40,
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writes:My husband can't get an erection when we have sex, and I feel disappointed. I'm not expecting an orgasm or anything like that; I'm only really expecting loving, caring sex. He is a respectful, lovely guy.He seems to be able to get an erection watching a porn DVD featuring two black men "getting hot and heavy with each other". Paradoxically, he shows no sexual interest in other blokes, so I don't get why he'd watch this series of DVDs.I have tried to talk to him but he either can't or won't open up. He's a guy who I can normally have a respectful, decent conversation with, but not on sexual-related matters. He always tells me to speak to doctors about this.He's only 26, and shouldn't be like this. I don't expect him to be a stallion in bed, but at least to have some sort of loving sex life.He seems to for some reason find sex uncomfortable to discuss.Talking got nowhere, is counselling worth it, or an expensive option?All my husband had to say on the matter was that it'd resolve itself in its own time, but I doubt that.please help me.
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reader, usandthem +, writes (1 August 2009):
your husband has a porn addiction problem. he's addicted to gay porn but hes not gay. tell him you know this in a kind respectful way.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (24 July 2009):
 You don't "expect an orgasm or anything like that". Why on earth not? You've only got the one life.
Seriously, no erection with you + erection with gay porn does rather point towards him being gay albeit in a very repressed way.
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