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writes:Well, when I was 13, I got pregnant with a 20 year old guy, I didn't know it was illegal at the time and I went on to have the baby, now, the baby is 6 years old and wants to know who her dad is, I contacted the father and he says alright, he will, I want my child to know who their dad is but he walked out on me when I was 13! And now I'm scared she'll get hurt.I'm torn between two choices and any help would be really helpful! please, for the sake of my kid. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay, so I've been to court and everything and he is allowed to see her every Friday for three hours until I feel I can trust him properly.
The first meeting was this Friday just gone and I took her and I stayed with them. He has changed so much from when I can remember, he now has, matured, I guess, he was really playful with my daughter and we went to the park and then to his flat, he showed her pictures of him and me when we were together, when I was only young. She was over the moon when he bought her an ice-cream and a teddy bear.
When she was sleeping, we talked. He told me he was so sorry for what he did to me and that he has changed, that he still loves me. I'm single and (let's call her Rebecca) Rebecca has changed my life, I've been single for six years and instead of going partying on the night time, I'm reading beadtime stories, and I wouldn't change it for the world. I've realised he has changed, but he's still the guy I loved when I was a kid and I think I'm falling for him again, he called yesterday and talked to Rebecca.
Rebecca loves him already and is asking when he's coming again, I've told her we can all go to the park after school tommorow and she's ecstatic. I want to get together with him again and I want us to be a family.
He also told me he wanted more children and so do I, I feel butterfies when I hear his voice :) honest :D I love him and I think we can put our past behind us.
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reader, sexi  +, writes (23 October 2007):
 Hi
Maybe you should wait until your child is old enought to understand the entire situation. Atleast then, the child would be able to understand whats going on. The last thing you wanna do is confuse your daughter. Imagine if you lt her father in her life and he walks out on her, then she would be confused;one minute he is there the next he is gone.I think you should wait atleast if your child is oder, she wouold understand whats going on and if her father has to disappear again from her life then she wouldnt be looking at you for answers. Hope this helped
Good Luck,mail me if you wana talk
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