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writes:Please make me understand that I am not the only one who thinks he is selfish.........OK so my boyfriend of five years is lazy he has worked off and on and has been trying somewhat to be a better person. he got laid off like three months ago and has not looked for a job because he is supposed to go to jail so he cant really work cause he will lose it anyway.... OK so today he told me he got invited to San Francisco this Wednesday , just for the day.....which normally is no big deal ... but when i wanted to go with my cousin out of town he told me "if you go I will never talk to you again" so to prove a point I told him today,,,, that i would be mad if he went.... just because he told me that the last time and I dont feel it should be double standards..why should he be able to go have fun when i couldnt and why should he go while i work to support his lazy ass?? I dont feel its fair! I honestly could care less if he went i am not the type to be selfish.. i just get so pissed that this guy thinks he could do as he pleases while i work and he stays home and relaxes..... maybe Iam the stupid one.. please help me understand oh yeah he got reallly mad cause i said i did not want him to go !!!![mod note: edited for language]
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2010): Common situation but your likely older than me by the sounds of things.
ive been going with my fiance for nearly 9 months ok.
well to start off he was so fun and i could do my own thing, and it wasnt so serious, we actually met for fun and i realised after so long it was much more than that,
hes really good to me and all and theres times hes so brilliant but ive noticed recently that he doesnt want me to be with anyone but himself, hes actually stopped me from going to my friends(basically am not allowed to go anywhere) im a party animal sorta person, hes not, so am not allowed to drink either, on boxing day my friend txted me to ask if i wanted to come to hers for a drink and that and thompson didnt want me to thats my bf
one day we planned to go up town as we had to shop for christmas, but my mum just kinda invited herself so he huffed all day being cheeky and barely talking, and when we went for lunch he wouldnt eat (he done this twice before, but if i had acted this way with his mum in are company it would of been a whole different story)
i do love him and never been like this before, but am scared incase he starts to get really controlling, (thats what your boyfriend is doing)
my friends have noticed am not like i was, i was and i can be bubbly, am a very sociable person. he likes to sit in most days, oh and he actually is letting me go to town with his mum tomorrow, which is a first,
he thinks am going to cheat on him if i go to a friends, he says this alot and am scared incase he drives me to actually doing it
it is very selfish of them to be that way! im only 16 ive so many years ahead of me to have fun, i need help too
it doesnt help because hes spoiled too and his mum finks the sun shines out of his arse! so she laughs when i say hes controlling, its far from funny
my mummy said she wants me to be happy and that he better not be controlling me, hes got worse am basically way him 14/7 now, hes either stayin in mine or am way him
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