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anonymous
writes:Hello everyone I seriously need help. I met this guy through a friend and we've each had our eyes on one another for quite some time and I really like him, well last night we had sex it was great but he ejaculated quick and he kept saying he normally last for a long time I was flattered at first but now I feel bad because he seemed very embarrassed and I noticed a drop in his confidence what can I say to make the situation better? I didn't have a problem with him nutting so quick because I had gotten mine during oral but he seemed pretty uspet with himself. I hope this didn't ruin any possible future hook up's because I really like him and I enjoyed the short time that he was inside of me. Can this be fixed? Can I save this relationship?
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (6 August 2010):
 Well, he obviously was turned on by you, wasn't he? :)
Tell him you like quick nutters (I honestly do, and am not hesitant about telling a guy that) even if it's a white lie. It should boost his confidence and next time, tell him you expect a double-dose of cum. I've found that makes guys really pumped up to give a good performance.
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reader, daletom +, writes (5 August 2010):
Yes, believe it or not MOST guys really want to give their partners physical pleasure and it disappoints us when we finish too soon.
The classic solution to this problem is you explain to him that he is going to cum at least twice - the first time in your hands or mouth, and then inside you. Ask him to cooperate and not fight the first release - after recharging for 10 or 15 minutes, he'll be ready to go again and will last longer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone cause I was really starting to feel bad about the whole situation all the advice will be used.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (5 August 2010):
 Very common for new relationships. As other's have said, it's you turning him on. You two need a few encounters to get used to each other. He will learn to control himself with you pretty soon.
Advice? Tell him that him cumming quickly really turned you on. Let him know that YOU know the reason he came so quick is because you turn him on and THAT is a major turn on for you.
Knowing a girl is turned on by a guy is is a major turn on FOR the guy. FYI.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2010): He shouldn't worry. That happens alot when guys are with someone new. Once he become more comfortable with you he will be ok.
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reader, mr toyboy  +, writes (5 August 2010):
Try make him come first during foreplay before penetration, he ll last longer and gradually become confident and he ll be able to control himself better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you I will give that a try I just can't let it go or stop thinking about it or him but I think it was so bad and very hard on him cause when it was time for him to leave he didn't want to look at me or give me a kiss goodbye he just gave me a hug and walked out with his head down I felt so bad so I sent him a text message and he responded back but wasn't talkative at all. I couldn't judge him cause I know that it happens and it doesn't make me think any less about him. I hope there will be a next time and this works because I don't want to lose him he's a great guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2010): My guess is, he cums quick all the time (no offense to you), and he said he usually doesn't to make YOU feel better. That's probably why he has a drop in confidence. If he was convinced it was a one time thing, he wouldn't make a deal of it. Best thing to do is tell him you like quickies or when he cums fast. His confidence will improve and things will level out. I'm glad to hear he is taking care of you first, though.
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