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writes:Dear cupid,My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year, and its been the best time in my entire life, i lovvve him sooo much. But i have a problem, he treats me very bad sometimes and calls me names and all that. Also he gets mad at everything i do now... How do i fix this?Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (6 January 2012):
 You are mistaking this relationship for love, it can't be love if one is disrespectfull of the other(in any way) he should cherish the ground you walk on before you 'love' him. If he doesn't worship you then it aint love it's something else and you don't want to go there.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (6 January 2012):
 The only way to fix this is to leave him. You're involved in an unhealthy relationship with an abusive guy and there's nothing you can do to get him to 'fix' things. He has to choose to become a better person and my understanding is that doesn't happen without some self-awareness and work.
You are tolerating abusive behavior which tells him that you don't think too highly of yourself and so he can continue to treat you badly, call you names and be angry at you all the time. This continual barrage of negative messages is designed to keep you off-balance and defensive. The abuser then will provide some nuggets of sweetness and kindness that gives you hope that he has changed but is just enough to keep you around and happy enough to do whatever it is he asks you, because you are so desperate to earn his approval.
I have a link I'd like for you to read and see how the description may apply to your boyfriend.
http://counsellingresource.com/lib/therapy/self-help/loser/
Let us know what you see of him in that description.
Good luck!
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