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writes:hi im an adult of age 23 , I am a straight and i happen to meet a guy elder than me of around 25 years . he is from the same place where I come from and we got introduced through a common friend of mine. as days passed on we got close to each other and he started calling me younger brother and i was feeling some warmth looking him as an elder brother ( Its pitty that i dont have a blood related elder brother but i was longing for one ) I got him a ring and a tshirt as a memorandum but he denied to accept it and was speaking harsh to me for three days until i have to convince him to be friends. But there was this turning point as he said i see you as my younger brother and not as friend but he ordered me to remain normal and behave the same like i behave with other friends. Meantime when he used to stay with me he used to comment me "i am sexy , since im a hairy cub " used to smooch me , used to pull my quilt and say i look really sexy . my bathroom doesnt have a lock so he used to shout "bro dont peep in or you will be shocked"this used to irritate me as I see him as brother and so ask him are u gay for which he answered if u are gay im a gay as well.. days passed on he left to home place( but still he called me brother but not a friend) I had a chat with him from a fake id and asked if he was gay he said yes Im gay all of sudden later after an hour he said he was just kidding with me. these days he doesnt really get in tough with me. even if he sees me online he never even cares to say a hi r hello . It annoys me and i have to initiate it everytime. these are my doubtswas he interested in sexual relationship wid me?he confuses people around me and myself by saying "u r my brother but be normal and dont have expectations over me "( expectations like calling him twice every week or so and so on ), what is that i should do to stop confusing me and my family, friends Reply to this Question
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (19 August 2009):
 seems he is very mixed up and very unsure of himself. think he wants things to be his way and you were like is toy its hard to guess on something like this the only answers you would get are from him and why hes acting so stupid. sorry it hasnt gone the way you wanted it to perhaps it was never ment to time will tell what will happen and hopefully things will work out the best for you! good luck aphex xx
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reader, octboy +, writes (19 August 2009):
octboy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi to all,
There has been an update in my situation and he himself strts conversing in chat and keeps enquiring about y have i notbeen contacting him and so on. when i say just call me friend and not a brother he says you have changed a lot and you dont want to call me brother and feel me so, i said nothing like that let us be normal ( as you used to say to me in the past ) he keeps yelling at me and told me to get lost and he never got back to me after that
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (16 August 2009):
i think its time to treat him like a distant friend than anything else because he is not being honest and his feelings are causing you to get hurt and if he cared for you he wouldnt treat you this way. i say dont concern yourself with him and if he keeps asking why then tell him if he cant talk to you honestly and being mean to you then you dont want to be near guys like that because friends care for each other and they tend to not hurt their friends.. if you cant have a good communication then what is their ? i think you should be more worried about whats happening in your life than whats happening in his because your getting wrapped up into something that is going in circles. hope this helps aphex xx
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reader, octboy +, writes (16 August 2009):
octboy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks a lot for your support , But I have spoken to him hell a lot of times and I have tried to convince him that i treat him as a brother , but he keeps yelling at me that not to have any expectations and to be normal ... he even once told me to visit a psychiatrist for which i was damn angry on him ... he calls up my parents and friends, speaks to them well adn enquires about me with them but never does straight away with me...i maintained distance and havent been calling or chatting with him , he himself gave msgs and called me and was enquiring how i have been doing and y didnt i call him???he confuses me with his behaviour of being rude and of being kind
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reader, octboy +, writes (16 August 2009):
octboy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks a lot for your support , But I have spoken to him hell a lot of times and I have tried to convince him that i treat him as a brother , but he keeps yelling at me that not to have any expectations and to be normal ... he even once told me to visit a psychiatrist for which i was damn angry on him ... he calls up my parents and friends, speaks to them well adn enquires about me with them but never does straight away with me...i maintained distance and havent been calling or chatting with him , he himself gave msgs and called me and was enquiring how i have been doing and why didnt i call him???he confuses me with his behaviour of being rude and of being kind
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reader, philipgifts  +, writes (16 August 2009):
 I think I would call him up and clear the air. Find out if he is gay and if he has any feeling for you. And how deep the feelings are for you. I think he is gay and I think he likes you/ or loves you and thats why he's puting space in between you bec. he might be thinking that if he's with you nothing is going to happen and it would be best not to talk to you. Tell him that you care for him but as a friend/brother and to not continue your friendship would hurt you. Comunication in any relationship is important for it to funcion, no comunication is like taking the heart out of the body, it doesnt work. At the beginning he liked the friendship but as it grew he had more expectations possably for more but you couldnt fill those needs so he pushed you away and left.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (12 August 2009):
i think he is unsure of himself and his life and he sees you as a brother but perhaps he likes you more than that but doesnt want to make a fool of himself.. let him get on with his life and if he wants to talk then let him start it.. just leave it as your friends and nothing else. the only other thing you could do is talk to him about your feelings and what you think. but i think he needs to figure thigns out for himself by your response its all over the place. hope this helps aphex
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