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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:hi my name is lana and just lastnight me and my boyfriend was talking and he called me by his exs name and he was with her for three years and has a 2 year old daughter with her we been togather for 1 year and im bout ready to have his son in 5 days.i dont know what to think he says he can not stand her and she put him through alot when they were togather hitting him and name calling and she even kept his daughter from him for the past 2 years i love him so much and he treats me like a g\queen but it hurt me so bad and we were both in the same type of relashiop before we got togather i was hurt in my mind soul and body for 3 years with my ex please should i be worried because it was twice in a 24 houre peiord of time
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2009): Yews, he once had very strong feelings for her and that lasted a long time so her name became associated with those feelings. Now he feels that way with you and in the occasional moment, he may slip up and say the wrong name because of past associations. It doesn't mean he's been thinking about her at all, it can just happen when he's relaxed. I've done it a lot in the first couple of years of a new relationship, despite being completely happy being with my new partner over my ex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009): You didnt say under what circumstance he said her name, but anyways. I think you shouldn't focus too much on that. He made a mistake with the names, not the person! I mess up names all the time! It's not a big deal! Just a mistake and a mess-up, and noting of any hidden meaning what-so-ever.
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reader, bambi1980  +, writes (15 December 2009):
 Hi it's happened to me and probably countless others on this site. If she was a significant person in his life which she obviously was coz they had kids then it'll be hard to forget things that went on. It's annoying yes but I wouldn't lose sleep over it. Just tell him that it hurt when he said it and ask him to think before he says something in future. Don't argue about it, that solves nothing. We all have a past, but that's exactly what it is... The past! Good luck
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