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*stochl
writes:So I recently had a baby with My ex [so recent it hasn't been 2 weeks] we broke up back in September. Within weeks of our break he started to date this new girl, but kept trying to work things out with me [we were engaged]. As I finally gave up and had enough of his games, I stopped trying. After I had the baby and we went over to his house, he ended up kissing me. All My feelings came back. As now he is talking about trying our relationship again. He said he left his girlfriend to be with me, because he is in love with me. I have no way of knowing if he left that girl or not. Is he just playing games?
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reader, sstochl +, writes (15 December 2009):
sstochl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThese days and ages, most people aren't married and have kids. Like I said before we were engaged. I love him, but I do see where your coming from
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reader, sstochl +, writes (15 December 2009):
sstochl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe didn't use protection because we wanted a baby together. Or so he says he wanted a baby with me. I don't think I'm playing games with him. He knows exactly how I feel, and what I want.
And no I don't think his behavior has changed since we were dating, last night he called me like 10 times to come over. He was drunk and I told him if I came over I wanted it to be when he's sober. [because he wanted to talk]
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reader, LucyKnows  +, writes (15 December 2009):
If you don't completely trust him, does that not say a lot in itself? Only get back together with him if you are 100% sure he loves you and is not messing you around. Try to think about the reasons you broke up in the first place and whether this would effect your relationship all over again. It is impossible for me to say if he means it or not as I don't know him or the situation in depth but if he does seem genuine and you feel strongly about him then maybe, for the sake of your baby, you should try things out with him for a little bit and see how it goes. However go steady and don't get too heavily involved, just in case. And do not get too serious unless you are utterly sure you trust him and that you are doing the right thing.
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reader, cbtutorials +, writes (15 December 2009):
Hi...
I think it is completely normal to worry and if you trust him then trust him. Good relationships need trust. If they don't they fall apart. Go with your heart and if it does turn out that he is still with this 'girl' leave him straight away and never take him back. He will love you more and want the relaionship to last longer if you trust him.
Hope This Helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009): I believe that time will tell. Work on being the best parents you can to your newborn first. Keep that in perspective when dealing with him. It's natural to have feelings for the person whom you've created a life with but instead of jumping full steam into them work out the pro's and con's of being with him. How was his behavior during the course of your relationship? What has changed since? It could be very well that he's lonely and is comfortable with you, so why not you? I would proceed with extreme caution with him and care for my child first.
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