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female
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30-35,
*onfusedlover10
writes:My boyfriend if 1 yr broke up with me a month ago. He felt that I was too attached and "I don't listen" or give him every thing that he demands. Ever since, he has been texting me about every detail going in his life. He doesn't text me every day but it's close to it. I don't initiate contact. It's always from his end. he text me about this new job he has gotten, sent me a pic telling me that he got his license, telling me when he's at work and when he gets off. I deleted his number so that I wouldn't text him first and look/feel stupid and blocked him on social networks. He said that it wasn't easy for him to break up with me, however, he feels that it was easy for me to handle. I pretended i was okay, but behind close doors I was wreck. a complete and total mess! I saw him for the first time since we broke up last weekend. he said he wouldn't get back with me. why does he text me so often? should I do the no contact rule?? I've been thinking about it. He said that he's trying to remain friends with me but I keep hearing and seeing this thing about how ppl keep a link just in case they need you??...Im a soft hearted person and I don't like burning bridges but I was really hurt by this break up and it's difficult for me to heal while talking to him. but, I don't want him to forget about me. I'm lost and confused. I'm in love with this person and it hurts not hearing from them or seeing them anymore but that's what a break up is I suppose...will doing the no contact rule bring him to me? I'm doing it to get him back, but to just move on. If he does try to come back, I will be very happy but not willing to repeat chapter of my life. I've never really dealt with a break up before, especially after being together for a year. Should I stop texting him back?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 March 2015):
 Why he is doing it does not matter.
I think he's being very unfair.
I do not think it's necessary to remain friends with an ex partner. Friendly or civil when or if you run into each other but nothing more.
I think for YOU to move forward you need to go NO CONTACT. And let him know that you are no longer a couple and therefore you would appreciate him not contacting you any more.
Then block him. He will NOT listen to you or respect your request because he has NO RESPECT for you as a person.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 March 2015):
 It's funny that he called YOU too attached and it seems HE is now acting like HE is the one who is too attached...
I would tell him to STOP texting you. And then I would BLOCK his number ( or better still get a new number)
By the CONSTANT contact you are daily reminded that it's over and that.. . really isn't helping you in moving on.
There is no way of knowing if he even WANTS to get back together or that he is texting you to make HIM feel better about dumping you, or ... simply out of habit. BUT that really doesn't matter, NO contact CAN help YOU deal with being single again an make you MOVE on.
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