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writes:My boyfriend just broke up with me after a two year relationship. We both loved and cared about each other very much. He is 56 and I am 49. We both have been divorced for 10 years and he has a few grown kids still at home (3 that are out of college) and I have two sons at home and my younger son, who is 18 is Autistic and requires a lot of care and my older son is 20 and attends a local college. I have plenty of services set up to assist in my home with my younger son. In spite of all of this, we worked it out and spent a lot of time (just the 2 of us) together. My boyfriend just took me to the Carribean in late April for my birthday and he was always so wonderful to me. We both always told each other how much we loved each other and I thought that things were going fine.Memorial Day Weekend we spent all 4 days and nights together alone and had a great time. He told me how much he loved me and we talked about future things that we were planning for summer, etc. When he left my house on Mon. evening he texted me before he went to bed and he said he had a great wkend with me and that he loved me. Three days later he called me and said that he wanted to come over because we need to talk. He came over and told me that he did not think that he loved me on the level that I love him and he kept saying, "I don't know why I can't feel the way that she does????" He went on to tell me that he was not worthy of me and that he also realized on Mon. evening when he left my house that I would never be free beause I would always have to care for my son with Autism. By the way, I let him know right then and there that he knew about my son 2 yrs ago when he met me. He went on to say that we can be friends but we should not sleep together and for me not to wait for him! He said that he wants afull-time relationship now and to be able to wake up next to someone each morning, etc. He also said, "I am 56 years old and I am 4 years away from 60 and I need more in my life." I told him that I did not know what he wanted me to do and that I loved im and I would love to live together, but my younger son is part of my life and that he (my boyfriend) was not exactly free having 3 kids still at hom.?????? I am still in total shock! I understand that my son is a challenge, but I am not asking for him to do anything. He handled it so cold! Help me please...
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reader, MamaBear +, writes (10 June 2011):
Oh my, what a change of thinking on his part. Be glad that this came out before any more time has passed. Yes, a special needs child needs time, attention and love. If this guy cannot be a part of this, you have to give him credit for saying so! Life goes on. And, a loving relationship with someone is wonderful - but many of us do not have this. Be thankful for the time you did have with this guy.
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