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writes:I cant think straight....my ex bf is beginning to consume my every thought.He broke up with me because he is depressed, he managed to go to a stage where he had no feelings whatsoever but one day realised that the number one problem was that he is incredibly behind in school so he has focused all his attention on school. Thats the only thing he cares about atm and Im happy that hes trying to get his life back on track, he has his second appointment tomorrow at the docs to determine whether hes just gonna get therapy or be on meds too. Thing is I still talk to him everday and I think about him all the time now...I cant stop. I want him back. He is my ultimate guy, I could never find someone better than him. I love him so much. But now I dont even know if hes mines. He may still have feelings for me but Im not gonna know because he needs to focus on himself and get his life back on track and a relationship is the last thing he wants.Im so lost...and I keep thinking about him hooking up with girls and moving on without me and OMG its hurting me soooo much!!!!
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (17 April 2011):
 Believe me when I say I can empathise. Sadly, I have no easy answers for you. This is because there is very little you can actually do. As you seem to realise this is a journey he has to take alone and there is nothing that can change that.I know you do. However, again, because of the nature of the thing there is absolutely nothing you can do to bring him back accept be there as his friend. This is probably going to tear you apart inside because you still have all your feelings for him still in tact and there are no guarantees of anything.I'm sure he is still yours and I dont think you need to worry about him 'hooking up' with anybody else soon. I know and I cant offer you anything really. Maybe you should try and talk to the people around you about what is going on and let them be there for you. Other than that I really hope this works out for you, good luck and take care.
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reader, KingOfThron  +, writes (17 April 2011):
 School can bring on alot of stress, and some people take stress diffrently and thats fine, but I dont think that some one should leave some one from being behind in school ether...When your withsome one you should show suport and it seem's like your doing that by talking to him still so that's always a good thing =]he might not be abel to handle a relasonship right now and other things in life. but you guys are from 18-21 life is just starting and when your with someone people need to understand things need to be 50/50 with most things. You need to work on building feelings and other things with your partner but you also need to bild on your own personal self.Its ok to feel love and enjoy some one so much you love seeing them smile and to make them happy, but you cant make a person your life, you need to do things on your own so when things like this dont work your strong enough to pick your self up =]Give it some time i'm sure things will be fine =] go out with some girlfriends go shopping and pamper your self for a few days!If you have any other questions feel free to ask!King.//
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reader, KingOfThron +, writes (17 April 2011):
School can bring on alot of stress, and some people take stress diffrently and thats fine, but I dont think that some one should leave some one from being behind in school ether...When your withsome one you should show suport and it seem's like your doing that by talking to him still so that's always a good thing =]he might not be abel to handle a relasonship right now and other things in life. but you guys are from 18-21 life is just starting and when your with someone people need to understand things need to be 50/50 with most things. You need to work on building feelings and other things with your partner but you also need to bild on your own personal self.Its ok to feel love and enjoy some one so much you love seeing them smile and to make them happy, but you cant make a person your life, you need to do things on your own so when things like this dont work your strong enough to pick your self up =]Give it some time i'm sure things will be fine =] go out with some girlfriends go shopping and pamper your self for a few days!If you have any other questions feel free to ask!King.//
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