A
female
age
51-59,
*rawfie
writes:Hi - im very confused and heartbroken.Basically my fiance dumped me again few weeks ago becasue he said he stopped loving me long ago.The story basically is we were going out for 3 yrs and in that time i started taking the contraceptive injection which sent me absolutely mental and brought out a horrible side to me that i'd never had before, also brought on depression and horrible anxiety.My fiance couldnt cope with the person i became so we split up - i moved back home, after searching the internet realised it was the injection that had made me the way i was so thought simply stopping the injection and hormone contraceptives full stop would be the solution.We talked and said our relationship was worth giving another go so i moved back in with him.A year later and hes dumped me again after a drunken row on holiday with his family.I know ive had a few issues and since ive been with him there have been family and personal health problems and basically due to the depression i suffered with last year, it manifested into a breakdown.Ive always been a strong person and thought i could cope and was embarrassed to seek professional help becasue of the stigma that comes from mental problems.He really is the man of my dreams and when i met him i slowly, too slowly started letting my guard down and over the last year a lot of anger and upset from my past has started to surface and i took it out on him and blamed him for things that werent there.He even admits that we havent argued for months but its the little comments (which i didnt realise until recently) that i make.We got a cat a few weeks ago and i kept checking and checking he was sure we'd be forever as to me a cat is a lifelong commitment - if he stopped loving me ages ago then he had the perfect opportunity to tell me before getting the cat but he didnt - he said he thought it would make me happy which it did and we certainly havent fallen out (except on holiday with his family) since then.Im just so confused - he says theres no going back cos he cant forget the horrible person i turned into and i understand that but does anyone think time can heal?I love him so much, ive never felt about a man like i do him and im now speaking with a counsellor often and getting out all my anger from my past.Any advice would be vrey much appreciated
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 November 2010):
 well hunny your on the right path talking to a councellor, nobody should ever feel ashamed to talk to some one about there mental health, its so common these days to go in to a depression more people need to seek help before it is to late.
For now i think it would be best for you if you concentrated on your own life for a moment, concentrate on getting yourself better and being happy independant. Dont contact your ex for now just try and sort out your own life at the moment, but darling for now you need to accept that it is over, because if you keep hanging on to hope then you will never move on, so you need to accept for the time being that you are single and built a life for yourself, a happy one.
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