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writes:Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years,this year will b the 3rd but he broke up with me a few days ago after an argument we had in which he was the wrong one,ive never seen him yet coz we have a long distance relationship but ive spoken to him and we've exchanged pics,his parents know about me but my mum doesnt know about him and i really really love him very much...we send each other gifts and chat to each other for hours and he told my friend that he doesnt want me back :-( but i really love him and i know he loves me to coz after we broke up he told me that he loves me but wat do i do i cant go on witout him i really love him alot:-( i want him back ,we always break up and he comes bak now wat do i do please help he was suposed to cum 2 me for my birthday in june but i dont knw now ,what should i do?help
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (15 March 2008):
 Think about this....if he still says that he loves you, why did he tell your friend that he didn't want you back??? This is not love. Or does he like your friend as well??? Either way this was never a real relationship to begin with. Find someone nearby you.You have my condolensces.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): Personally, I don't think a long distance relationship like this is where neither of you have never met, never spent time together is based at all in reality....it is easy to chat and type sweet words when there is nothing to get in the way like clashing personalities, habits or values and beliefs.....I think you should let this go, you are very young, too young to be so hung up on this cyber guy....I think it is unhealthy for you and you must feel that too at some level as you haven't told your parents about this relationship that is so important to you. I am sure you feel you love him, but I am thinking what you are feeling is longing not love, intensity of feeling should not be confused with the reality of the situation.
Get off the computer and the phone and go live outside amongst the flesh and blood people in your area, you are bound to find some friends there. Take care.
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reader, Bean317 +, writes (15 March 2008):
I know its hard. I met my boyfriend on the net, but we had an in person relationship, however 6months into it, it became long distance for another 2 years. He just ended it a few weeks ago because the distance is too hard and there's not way of fixing the distance anytime soon. We said maybe in two years if we keep in touch and still feel the same. It's really hard and I keep wanting to contact him. But I know we need time. The fact that you've never had time in person with this guy complicates it. Trust me I know it's possible to have strong feelings stir, but honestly you really don't know until you have the chemistry in person. You need to have that first kiss to tell if it's real. I think what you have is a love for the idea of someone. it's nice to have that void filled and not have to look for other people. Honestly though, you don't know if he's seeing other girls, dating other girls on the internet and really, where could your relationship go? After 3 years your parents don't know, you've never actually met and he breaks up with you a lot...is there really a future. I know it hurts, trust me I know. But you have to let your brain do some of the reasoning, not all your heart. Hang in there, you'll find someone you can love in person and enjoy the niceties of touch :)
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