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writes:this guy and I have been dating for almost two years now. Its been a hard relationship I will admit. I gave my all I to this relationship and I feel so foolish at times when I actually take the time to think the "relationship" through. I did everything I could for him cause he was not working at the moment. I helped him get a car, paid for his clothing and ect. And all I wanted in return was him to be faithful and love me unconditionally. He was abusive both mentally and physically. I've had black eyes cuts and scrapes but I still loved him. Silly yes I know! Not even a year of being together he cheated on me with a girl (if that's what you want to call her) who already had 2 kids, didnt finish high school and no job. Now I don't think I'm above anyone but she was far from being on my level. I graduated high school with an advance diploma, varsity cheerleader, winner of many pageants and was on my way to one of the top universities in Alabama. Shortly after that he went to jail for an incident that happened prior to us getting together. I He was gone for nearly 10 months until we were reunited. Till this day I still love him dearly but I'm ready to move on. He promised me change and a better relationship that I still have not gotten. Many times I feel used in this relationship and want out no matter how much he claims he needs me.Questions:what did I do wrong?how do I get over him?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (28 September 2008):
What you did wrong is that you stayed with him when he did these things. You should have left as soon as he showed this behaviour.
How to move on is to carry on as you are. Listen to lots of strong happy music and you will feel better.
Yes you made a mistake, but if you learn from this then you will never be treated this way again.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2008): You get over it by breaking off all contact. It'll be hard for a little while, but it gets easier over time - especially if you don't have any contact to remind you of him.
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