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anonymous
writes:Hello, i have a been with my partner for 18 years. We had our 1st child in 2000 after being together for 10 years, who is now 8 years old. Our 2nd child in 2002 who is now 6 years old.The last child in 2007 now is 1 years old.All our children have development problems which has been at times tough coping with, but ive learnt to adjust. I have not felt supported emotionally from my childrens father, since our 1st child arrived.He he a good father and i trust him with the kids.Our communication is not good and it becomes stressful and at most time with him leaving home for days to weeks, without contacting us. His idea of time out has grown a gap between us and we are splitting up on a monthly basis.Im councilling at the moment have been for years.I would like to know how, to talk to my partner to make him know, im serious about us separting?He wont talk to anyone not even his father.Im concerned and slightly disturbed, when he says i need help.When i tell him im getting councilling,he replies back, then change your councilor cause its not helping you?This goes on.....until i side with him to change im on my 4th councilor in 2 years.IS it ok when you know its time to pack it all away and begin without them.Im not desperate and it might seem that im holding us together, its just that during the break my anger subpass and he is back which makes me happy, until the next time.Im not sure he will be back this time because we had a big blow up last night, which followed onto today.Well hes gone and he isnt back.Dont think i really care. What will happen next time if there is one?I know i cant breathe Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi anoymous i thought your message was helpful i rated it wrongly, so please disgard. I have slept the night away peacefully and have a session with councilor today. I will take a look into the book you suggested, thank you for replying to me and i wish you a sunny hot day with sweet smells of meadows of wild flowers. Cheers
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