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*icole1231
writes:I have been in a long distance relationship for years and we agreed to meet this September but it worries me now that he might just see me for physical reasons and not really love me for who I am.Is it not offensive when an online bf will ask, "what is your expected monthly period so I may arrange a travel date not on your menstrual time?"Why would he asks me this kind of question? Am I right to feel he will just be with me for sexual reasons and not really serious with me?
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (12 April 2011):
 Why haven't either of you met in the 5 years this "relationship" has gone on?
He contradicts himself by saying he wants to it slow, but making sure he arrives when you're period is over. Of course he only wants you for sex. I would let this "relationship" (if you want to call it that) go. 5 years is a long time to waste isn't it?
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reader, nicole1231 +, writes (12 April 2011):
nicole1231 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, we haven't met in person yet after 5 yrs of online relationship, it will be the first time. Moreover, if I ask him if he has plans of moving forward with me and not just meeting me first time, he refuse to talk about the issue and would just tell me, "let's take our relationship one level at a time, take it slow". He doesn't give me clear answers.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (11 April 2011):
Your question gave me a good laugh.
One, have you ever met this guy in person?? If you've never met him in person and he's already scheduling his travel date around your period, chances are he's just looking to sleep with a foreign girl.
However if you have met in person and have maintained appearances when possible, then I see nothing wrong with him wanting to make sure he gets to make love to his lady.
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reader, BeckieYMA6  +, writes (11 April 2011):
 I personally think you're right.well, it may not JUST be because of that, it's it's definitely a big part of it.What gives him the right to automatically think you are going to have sex with him!Yes, it is very offensive! You've never even met before!Personally, i would refuse to meet him, what he is asking, is actually making me very worried for your safety, if you have never mentioned sleeping with each other when you meet :S he just assumes it is going to happen.Please be careful with this one:/
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