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writes:i split up wiv my long term partner of 8 yrs last yr.i have a 4 and 2 yr old kids and they took it hard.alot was trust issues.i had herd rumors about him sleeping with other women but always took his word for it but he never trusted me ie;going to the shops.we had been split up for 9 mths and i had moved on and happy being single and putting all my energy into the kids.he had met someone else only 2 months after the split.in feb this yr he asked if we could try again.i said that i would but i would take me time to trust him again.he asked if we could keep it between ourselfs as he didnt want any1 influencing us and that he would keep living were he was as he had money coming in for me and the kids..last weekend after a week of suspicions and checking his phone i got him.he made out that he had a 1 nite stand and i phoned the girl and she told me that they had bn together for 3 mths.she has forgave him after he went crawling.the thing that upsets me is that he has messed wiv the kids heads as i have to explain to them why daddy will not be staying at their house any more.I WANT REVENGE
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Congratulations! You should be thankful that this liar has been exposed for what he is and is out of your life at last. His new girlfriend of 3 months may have forgiven him, but with the cat out of the bag you can be pretty sure she doesn't trust him any more, either. I'd say there are rocky times ahead over at her place!
They say revenge is sweet, but it takes a lot of effort and planning to carry it off. If you've got kids and your own life, that's a lot of energy going into something quite negative that you could put to better use. What you have to do is to protect the lives and livelihood of you and your kids. Even if you manage to get some kind of revenge, the collateral damage may be unacceptable. Forget him and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): The best revenge in life is to go about your life, improve yourself, be a better person, and let nature take its course when it comes to getting back at him. Karma is a very powerful force that requires nothing of you except for you to trust that it will come around in due time.
In the meantime, you need to do what is in YOUR and your children's best interest to move forward in life and be happy. So go out there, get in shape, educate your children, be a good mom, be a fabulous woman. Forget this man. Don't sink down to his level. Let him keep passing you money for the kids, and avoid any other contact with him. If he wants to be that low, then by all means, let him be and do whatever he wants. He's digging his own grave. So let him be. If you play your cards right, you will get the last laugh. So be strong.
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