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writes:My boyfriend and I had been together for about a year and a half. He just turned 27 and I am 24. He started his new job about 5 months ago, and we had been in a long distance relationship since then. He would be optimistic about our relationship, while I was not. I still wanted to be with him than without...he made me happy. However when I went to visit him, things were not the same. I was moody and things were "off" I guess. I had high expectations and because it was not how I hoped it to be, I became frustrated. We did not really speak to each other afterwards for almost 2 weeks. I finally called him and he tells me that he wants 'a break because both sides weren't happy'. When I asked why he was not happy, he say it was because I was getting irritated with him all the time. I don't know how to fix the situation. Is it really over? I've never been in a break, so this is killing me. I am afraid he's never going to come back. What is your advice on this situation?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (11 April 2010):
 You are in a catch 22 situation. Men and women do not think alike.
You may have too high an expectations from him or you are moving too fast and he is lagging behind.
You need to slow down and take each day as it comes. Planning too far ahead is not advisable.
Apologize to him if you feel that you are in the wrong and accept him as he is and not as what you want him to be.
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reader, empop +, writes (11 April 2010):
Long distance relationships are very hard, particularly if you have no definitive plans to move back together again.
It sounds to me like a long distance relationship is not an option for you in the long term. I think you either need to plan to live near each other again, or you should end the relationship but this in between "long distance/break" thing is probably the worst for you.
If you do decide to end it, end it cleanly so you can start moving on with your life.
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