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writes: Everyone is telling me that my partner of 6 years has been not seeing this women and he swears on our three kids lives that he hasn't, My heart believes him but my mind has doubts, we have so much to loose if i walk out but will i always wonder if he has been with her? Reply to this Question
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reader, Nikita  +, writes (12 December 2006):
 Hi Robyn,
Its hard when you have little niggling doubts about someone. Ive been there myself but as you will never 100% know for sure I think that you have to move on from this and try and forget it, hard as it may be. Is it worth losing what you have?. Unless you have concrete proof that he's been cheating then I would stay and try and work through this for the sake of your children and you as well. Go with your heart and keep telling yourself that he's with you and no one else. If you find out anything different then you have a valid reaosn for leaving but for now but those doubts in a box and lock them away. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2006): Doubts are normal. Just because you love someone, doesn't mean you entirely not doubt the person. As with my previous comment on another thread, trust isn't automatic, and is really a frame of mind. People, depending on their own internal strengths and wisdom, have varying degrees in controlling their doubts. Some brush it off like nothing, and others over-react.
In short, you either doubt him but trust him, or you doubt him and do not trust him. Understand?
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