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writes:SO not too long ago I met a guy that I really liked. Well we hit it off well and things seem to be doing great! then a couple days ago he said that he is still in love with his ex. I told him that it was okay and we can still be friends. Then I started talking to his brother and he is like one of the sweetest guys I've ever met. At first I was talking to him as just friends. But later on it seemed like theres becoming more to it. I asked the younger brother that I was originally into, if it was alright. I didnt want to make it seem like I was trying to get back at him for hurting my feelings. He told me that he was okay with it. But I feel like theres more to what he is letting on. Like his whole mood just kind of changed. Does this mean that he still might have feelings or something for me? I really dont want to hurt him. And if being with his brother is going to do that I want to know what I can do. And frankly at the moment I am clueless on solutions. Can you please help!?
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reader, petina1  +, writes (12 December 2010):
 It's always difficult, especially when you have finished with someone else, it's not as if you have walked away and he's not seen you again, because there you are again, although seeing his brother. It's got to be hard for him to see you two together. I'ts like the sister thing, when sisters share boyfriends as happened to me when i was your age my sister would always pick up my ex's so i couldnt get them completely away. Even though I did not want them back i did not want to watch them kissing my sister in front of me. If you must see his brother i would be careful how you are acting out in front of your ex for a few months at least until he has adjusted to the situation.
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reader, jrns96 +, writes (12 December 2010):
ouch, sounds like a jam. ok, well. this is obviously hurting him. of course it is. but dont be so quick to assume that its bcuz he has feelings. he could just be mad that his ex is dating his older bro. that would piss me off. determine wat the reason is, ask him, be straightforward. he cant dodge, lie or slide around the question if u sit him down and talk. and in the long run, who do u love more? if its the older bro forget this and date him. if its the younger, then consider the advice above. i sincerely hope this helped --joerns
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): He didn't actaully say out front that he wasn't okay with you going for his brother, so you couldn't be doing anything wrong. I think it's sweet that you're considering his feelings, but you have to have some happiness too!
Whatever happens good luck :]
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reader, Tizzie0612 +, writes (12 December 2010):
 honestly i would suggest not dating his brother no matter how much you want too. It might or might not ruin the relationship between them.Your ex may not show it but he still has feelings for you and even if he doesnt im sure he will feel some negativity towards you for wanting to date his brother. I been in this situation before when one of my ex's started liking my brother. I thought at first may as well let them do what ever and my brother some how had it in his head that i was completely comfortable with it. I wasnt of course..i still had some feelings for her but wasnt at her much. i was mad at my problem because its just da basic principal that you dont date your brothers ex girlfriends.We almost had a fight over her as well.So for you i would say its a risky move and there is a 50 50 chance that you can ruin the relationship between them and yourself or not.The safe thing to do is just stay friends with your ex brother. if not possible then wait for a few months before you guys seal the deal
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