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writes:I have this friend and we have been friends since 8th grade.Now in 9th grade we got closer and Me him and my best friend we are all like best friends. But to often he gets mad at me for no apparant reason I ask him like I always does and it's something stupid like you're annoying, I hate you, blah blah, etc. It's so annoying me and the other best friend we trusted him with something that we said about some girl and he's been threating all week to tell her and the rest of our friends. We decided that if Mr.Blab would do that that me and Elyse would ignore him and never talk to him again or be friends. What we said was something that we felt we could trust him with and if it got out then that would be the end of our friendships with those other people. We even told him that and he was all well I was just bluffing okay. But after that he would still joke about that and say her name and give me his evil smirk. It's just really annoying and we told him to stop it.So recently, actually yesterday, I was day dreaming while walking in the hall way and he comes up to us and was all Hey, Bye. And it was like okay?? I asked him about when we met him in the library after lunch and he said I was being a bitch to him and Etc.It's just I feel as if he wakes up in the morning and decides to be mad at me it's so stupid. I ask what I did and he ignores me or he just makes up something.So at art after the library he was talking to me and he was all why are you ignoring me and whya re you being such a bicth.And it's like What are you talking about? He makes fun of me a lot and I usually take it as teasing but he's made fun of my hair, my glasses, and myself. i confronted him and he like blewup. He said I start everything and that I'm a jerk to him. I asked him like when but he never said anythign over text yet he just ignored it.So this morning I called him at 7, it wouldn't be a big deal since his bus comes soon and he told me at lunch today that I'm stupid and that he thinks I'm pathetic and his mom thinks that too. Like he's mad at me and my bestfriend and it's so annoying. I actuallyhave a crush on him so it's really hard for me.One of my friends said I should ignore him for two days and if it's going well go for a week. Should I do this do any of you have any advice? If you need to know more then I will.Please help I'm really mad and annoyed with him after doing this so many times.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (2 May 2008):
He obviously has some kind of issue and you've been really strong by not putting up with his blackmailing.
Ask him straight out when you are alone with him why he is being so horrible. He may have problems at home or something so give him a chance to open up.
Get your other friend to do it too in case he feels more comfortable talking to her about it.
It could just be that he's being a moody teenage boy and his hormones are making him go mental.
If he won't talk to you and it continues then just stop hanging out with him until he stops.
I wouldn't ignore him for a few days as this could come across as you playing a mind game. Stay his friend so he doesn't feel abandoned but just stop inviting him to meet you and back off a bit.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2008): this lad is showing all the signs of being bessoted with you. Its sad really that lads have to act this way, when i was at school all the guys who acted this way with me said years later that it was because they really liked me. but this is no excuse for him to act like such a jerk, hes desperate for your attention and with boys being a bit daft at that age if you respond to his silly coments about you being nasty to him it will only give him more amunition to have a pop at you, wind you up and gain more of your attention, which he clearly wants so badly. id suggest calling or talking alone with him, explaining that you feel that hes picking at silly reasons to fall out with you when you really dont want to fall out with him, and when hes nice give him lots of attention and when hes a git simply tell him youll speak to him wen hes in a better mood and calmly walk away, if he pulls faces or makes coments pretend you havent noticed and talk to someone else, like a puppy he will soon figure out only good behaviour will get your attention
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