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writes:I love my boyfriend so much, and really want to keep him and have a life with him.But over the last year i have noticed that i sort of move around him. For example, there was one time when he said he didnt want to be with me, and i tried to say fair enough and let him be, but within the day i cracked and begged him back etc. Or if he sounds and seems annoyed or iffy with me on the phone i try to cheer him up or apologise etc but after the call i get really upset or cry because i think he will want to leave. (theres other examples aswell)Its not always this bad but it does happen more often than it should.Now i know i should act more confident and be stronger but i love him, and the thought of losing him terrifies me.Especially when there are times it seems like he doesnt care if i disappeared. (i know this is probably just my imagination)I know it shouldnt be like this so if anyone has any advice i would really appreciate it!Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your answers, i'm going to try what you have said, thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2012):
I think there are things you can do to boost your confidence and self esteem.. First is realise that if he wants to go, he will and no mount of crying will change that.. Secondly he with you so that's a postive.. Third. Get out with friends go clubbing pubbing whatever takes your fancy.
Fourth. Take up a new hobby, like art or cooking, mechanics whatever you feel is interesting meet new people..
There is nothing like a night out with the girls at the end of the month to boost self confidence, looking good and feeling fine and lil bit of attention from the opposite sex is a good thing..
And with what I mean in attention is you know when they give you a smile and appraising look.. You don't need to take them up when they start their chit chatting, your just Window Shopping, and you ain't buying..
Have alife away from your bf.. You need too..
Take care sweetie ... You sound a lovely girl ..
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reader, sweetiebabes  +, writes (30 November 2012):
 If you want to be in the position of strength, you need to stop making excuses. You need to face the facts here that he is not treating you good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2012): "Now i know i should act more confident and be stronger but i love him, and the thought of losing him terrifies me."
Sorry OP, we can't make you more confident and strong. We can only advise you what the best course of action would be and since you already know what that is and are too weak to do it there's nothing we can say.
You're very, very weak for this guy OP and this is how it's always going to be until you're just so ground down and worn out from it that you can't take it anymore.
Good luck OP.
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